Wow, you are really a piece of work...

You "trusted his word" because you cared more about doing what FELT GOOD to you than what WAS GOOD at the time. You really WANTED TO BELIEVE HIM more than you WANTED TO ACTUALLY KNOW the truth. I am sure he was very persuasive--liars always are, otherwise everyone would easily see through them.

Seeing his W's "dating profile" means nothing and proves nothing. He could have posted a fake profile in her name and with her picture. Even is she did it herself, it is meaningless. Even if she was cheating herself, it is meaningless. HE was still MARRIED and you knowingly became his mistress and play-thing.

Excusing it the way you have been is sort of like saying "yeah, I robbed that gas station, but they were over-charging people for car washes..."

Aha, I was right. You DO want to goad him into having to acknowledge you (any attention is good attention) and you are also obsessed with him and not a very healthy young woman right now.

I'm also not going to waste any more time reading or responding to this.

You sound very mature.

This guy used you and threw you away. Why do you still want him?

baloney

you are acting like a stalker.

DROP IT AND GROW UP.

No I trusted what he was telling me. I was actually quite concerned about it all and asked a lot of questions. I truly believed they were both dating.

1. "It's also a man who told me his wife neglected him for years": Every cheater scapegoats their spouse. You did not know that was true and even if it was, you should have told him to get a divorce first and then call you.

2. "I would have never gone out with him had I known they didn't really have an agreement": YOU DIDN'T KNOW THAT!!! YOU ASSUMED--YOU NEVER ASKED!!!!!

3. "a lot of people nowadays stay together for financial reasons or the kids": Perhaps, these people are called MARRIED!!!! What part of MARRIED do you not seem to understand? And why would you want to or expect to "spend the rest of your life" with a man who was cheating on his wife? I wonder if she thought he was the man she "ws going to spend the rest of her life with" too? Ever think about that?

4. When you first posted, it seemed you needed some guidance and deserved the benefit of the doubt as someone who made a mistake and was naively taken advantage of. I have come to see that you are craven, callous, and pre-emptively knew exactly what you were doing. You have taken no responsibility for yourself and have demonstrated no remorse or repentance for what you have done.

You truly did get what you deserved...what goes around, comes around.

No, I would prefer to just contact the ex-wife. But appears no one thinks this is a good idea.

Enjoy your jail time, then. Perhaps it will give you some much needed time for self-reflection. You do realize that once someone has told you to stay off his property, for you to return is trespassing? Which is a crime?

I guess you did too, right???

1. "It's also a man who told me his wife neglected him for years": Every cheater scapegoats their spouse. You did not know that was true and even if it was, you should have told him to get a divorce first and then call you. I DID! And he got it going 3 months after we started seeing each other as a result! Did you read that part?!?!?!?

2. "I would have never gone out with him had I known they didn't really have an agreement": YOU DIDN'T KNOW THAT!!! YOU ASSUMED--YOU NEVER ASKED!!!!! I DID ASK! DID YOU MISS THAT PART TOO?!?!?!

3. "a lot of people nowadays stay together for financial reasons or the kids": Perhaps, these people are called MARRIED!!!! What part of MARRIED do you not seem to understand? And why would you want to or expect to "spend the rest of your life" with a man who was cheating on his wife? I wonder if she thought he was the man she "ws going to spend the rest of her life with" too? Ever think about that? YES AND LIKE I SAID...

4. When you first posted, it seemed you needed some guidance and deserved the benefit of the doubt as someone who made a mistake and was naively taken advantage of. I have come to see that you are craven, callous, and pre-emptively knew exactly what you were doing. You have taken no responsibility for yourself and have demonstrated no remorse or repentance for what you have done.

You truly did get what you deserved...what goes around, comes around.
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You know what? I am going to contact the wife and ask her. Maybe they indeed did have an agreement to date. Maybe the dating profile was real! Wonder how you would all feel if that were the case!

I woudln't be going to his home. I would be going to a public place I know he goes to every weekend.

You only wanted to contact his exwife because he told you not to contact him anymore, so you are trying to find a way to get to him and you are more than happy to use his exwife to get what you want.

You are a selfish immature brat. Leave him and his exwife alone and be glad that you had the sense not to have children with him. OMG I just realized you probably weren't even that smart, he probably had a vasectomy.

I'm thinking Neb is a troll just looking to get people upset.

If she is real then I don't think she should be calling the other man a narcissist (kind of the pot calling the kettle black).

Leave the poor woman alone and let her get on with her life. You are an adulterer. Contacting the ex-wife will not change that fact.

Can anyone say "restraining order". You are obsessed and need help. Call a counselor today and get some help.

No. As I said above, I would prefer to contact the wife, but everyone here seems to think it would cause more harm than good.

Exactly the same.

Also, stop calling the other adulterer the OW. You are the OW. She was also the OW but he didn't cheat on you with her. He cheated on his wife.

you are acting like a spoiled child.

Cut it out and get professional help.

Medc,

I must say, that is a very convoluted value system you espouse here.
1. Yes, she got exactly what she asked for -- a cheater who cheated on her and a liar who lied to her.
2. Yes, she DID "choose to be involved with a married man" -- he was MARRIED and she CHOSE knowingly to be with him. Notice, she hasn't claimed abduction or rape. She dated him and pulled her pants down voluntarily.
3. The above is about as BLACK AND WHITE as it gets
4. It was not up to her to decide whether his "marriage was over". It doesn't matter if him/his wife were separated or not. Did you notice that NO ONE asked HIS WIFE any of these questions? HELLOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!