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#2176003 12/17/08 04:24 PM
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Well I found out that she was having a PA in May. We went to counseling. It seemed that she came out of the fog after a couple of months. Things got better but not great.
About a month ago she starting going on Facebook. She chatted it up with old friends from high school and such. I told her that it is ok but she needs to watch herself. Not give her phone number out to old friends cuz you never know what kind of people they. I have a keylogger on her laptop so I know what happens on the laptop. She knows I have the keylogger because that's how I caught her before. She has mentioned it a couple times too. Even to some of her friends. She once said to one of her friends that to call here because she wanted to discuss a christmas present for me and she told him she couldn't tell him over the chat session because it is monitored.
Then she started playing poker on facebook. I played with her and one of her friends for awhile. Then she started playing with one guy all the time. I played with them a couple of times but lost interest in playing. I kept monitoring what they said all the time. He knew about me but we never spoke. I told here that it bothered me that she was spending so much time playing poker. She said it was innocent of course. She knows I hate it that she is always playing.
The other day I told her that I didn't think she was putting enough into the marriage and should we just give up. I said it would be best after the holidays. She said ok. We spoke some more and she said she didn't want to give up. I asked her if we could come up with a plan for our marriage. I told her we can pick some kind of book about repairing marriage and follow it. She didn't like the idea. She said she would like to keep trying the way we are. She says she is having trouble with the resentment that she has for me not paying enough attention for several years.
Last night she said she was going shopping for some stuff for work. She owns businesses and has to do this a lot. She came back with a bunch of stuff around midnight. I looked at her phone and all her text messages were deleted. Yeah, I still don’t trust her so I’m always looking. So I looked today online at our cell phone provider website. There were several texts to her girlfriend/coworker and one picture message to a number I have never seen. I looked up the number and it is her poker buddy. Her poker buddy is out of this state. I have no idea what the picture was.
I'm furious. I will talk to her tonight and tell her that she will not be playing poker anymore and either she works on our marriage or we are done.
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take it easy - you've got 4 kids!


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