He is CURRENTLY functioning as a creep, as all waynerds are.
He has a history of non-creep behavior, which offers hope that underneath the creepiness, a real man is still possible.

If her WH was never a real man (he was) then her level of hope for reconciliation ought to be much lower.

I am certain I would not enjoy a year of Plan B myself, but we never know what we are capable of until our feet are held to the fire and until we are in that position ourselves.

Because there is a history here of a previously good marriage, and there are two adorable children, I think the effort to save the marriage should be encouraged, not discouraged.

Pep

PEP

Not much to update, very quiet day here in PB town!

H never called today. Kinda weird has he called all last week and then visited for 3 days. I was guessing he possibly got irritated at information I sent through the IM's about tax time next year. If he is mad, kinda stupid he would not call his kids over it. Whatever, not like he hasn't done this before.

Anyways did a whole lot of nothing today, went to church, took nap, and ate like a fool. Sundays are the day I give myself to eat anything I want and then back to clean eating for most of the week.

No crying, trying to keep the anger down and thoughts under control. Christmas party scheduled next Sunday, thought about cancelling it as Its hard to feel super festive but I am going ahead and having it. I think about 15-20 people will be there. Kids and I are gonna bake goodies again on Saturday.

Well Im off to bed.....

Good job on going ahead and having the party. You may not feel like it *now*, but when the party is ongoing you'll be glad to have the friendship, distraction, and good company.

Then the next day when it's time to clean up, you can forget I ever said "Oh, sure, go ahead and HAVE the party, yes you really should!". Or, you can mutter under your breath as you pick up trash and do dishes and vacuum... you can mutter things about what a vile person Turtlehead is and how her ideas SUCK big time

LOL, Turtlehead

Hey T2L,
hows it going chickie???

Does everybody know about your DH's shenanigans?

Guest: "Such a nice party, Trying2live. By the way, where is your husband?"

Trying2live: "Most likely with his mistress. We are hoping he will come to his senses and cut contact with her and be home with his wife and children by Christmas, but I don't have high hopes."

I have no problem with this.

I'm not saying a word ......

Most guests coming do know, mostly close friends from church and most of them loved him. So I can relax and not worry.

We had a work breakfast / water sports Christmas event this morning. The whole way there I was cursing it and feeling very sorry for myself about having to go when I feel so washed out and sad about my personal situation.

BUT, I had a great time. I laughed, got soaked in the canoe and enjoyed the company of everyone there.

Enjoy your party! It will be a dark cloud above you until the first guests arrive and then you will relax and have a lovely time. You derserve it!!

Hey there hi there hoe there.

Nothing new, as usual. VETS do H's become indifferent in Plan B or are they more indifferent before it starts. Just wondering, its so quiet.

I still struggle with not obsessing, and try redirecting my thoughts a lot. Thats a daily thing.

Anyways tightened up the visitation with the H and kids as he would go through the kids so I am sure he prob is once again pissed unless he is getting more indifferent by the day. IDK.

Anyways outlined the days and times and the IM's sent it to him, so now when he asks the kids can I visit they are going to tell him IDK dad check the schedule.

Anyways off to trophy ceremony and end of season party for DS10. Looking forward to it as football helped all of us. Funny i used to hate it now i love it. (I think i hated it because i am a former cheerleader who dated a football player who ended up being a complete creep in high school...LOL)

:MerryChristmas: :MerryChristmas: :wavingsanta:

Still hating Plan B tho! Man when's that gonna stop LOL

Hey T2L,

Sorry for a brief threadjack (I've been following and you're doing great BTW) but there is a new poster, Ban52, who has a situation very much like yours. I've directed her here, but she could use some moral support from you.

Tabby1,
Okay I will go look. Thanks for the compliment. Funny when you look at yourself you think your doing terribly but others see you as doing well. Weird. No thread jack, were all family now, the family of the betrayed LOLOLOLOLOL Darn I wanted in the other family, the one that is not betrayed. What luck! J/K.

Okay gonna look now....

GOOD!!!!!

Remember I didn't hear a word from my WH when I went into Plan B - from September to 2 days before Christmas when he called me at work and announced he was in the process of moving back in.

Trust that things are going on that you cannot see or know about. Hang in there.

I know I Know quiet is good, I still hate it. LOL I would rather hear the pitter patter of my Stubborn Walkaway Spouses little feet home and agreeing to conditions! Now that i could go for.

Whatever. Isn't Whatever such a lovey word. It saves you from a lot doesn't it. Think I'll start a thread on the various good ways one can use the word whatever-I'm bored can you tell? LOL

Hello there my lil B!!!

Okay everyone is lil...Lil Neak, Lil Pep, Lil Delean, now Lil B and then Lildoggie already has Lil so I can move to Lil turtlehead and Lil jayne and Lil Cat and Lil Tabby and Lil Kayla and Lil hmmmmm..... I know I am forgetting someone let me think....I'll find you.

Okay back to you Lil B! Yes I will trust that even tho I can't see it something is happening. I mean the possibilities are endless, I may not see that the ramen is burning or maybe the Sea Hag is getting fatter, or that he now has a lifetime supply of Ramen I mean really, we can go on like this for days!

Ya know what I think, I think they truly must come up with an icon of ramen noodles cuz we know all WS's are prolly eating it up! LOLOLOL Okay I think the cold and rain are getting to my brain...ewe did you hear that it rimes!!! Well it rarely rains here in Southern Cali and its not too cold either.

This cold weather is making me wanna bake cookies only bad side is I wanna eat em too......I am leaving now because I think if I dont I may get even more retarded :wavingsanta:

Umm, lilTully? Lil BF? All those other lil plan-b-ers!! Sounds like its a little loopy out there in Cali! What you need is some good old fashioned grey Ohio weather! It's a sedative!
Anyway, I wanted to respond to your comment about how quiet it is in B. It is and its hard to keep thinking that something. anything is still going on in a Wayward mind other than "movin' on!"
But I have to think that if I am still thinking non-stop about all of this; he's got to be thinking about everything some, too. That just make sense. And where we have some comfort that we have tried to make the best choices for the family; WS know on some level that they have only made the "best" choices for themselves. That crude will have to start bubbling up soon...
Hang in there -- I'm thinking about you and all the other lil plan b-ers around the world!!

BF439

Trying 2 Live! found you. just put up my topic -- long winded of course. Keep in touch. Are you in church tonight? Lets talk dialog!
Hope you are holding your own and doing well. I had a rough day just feeling down but I have been able to turn it around. take care.

I am THE Lil, there can be only one