Last night we (the family) were watching a tv show – the storyline revolved around a married couple with teenage kids. The marriage had hit one of those rocky stages, with lots of misunderstandings and hurt feelings over different incidents, and the husband begins an affair. At this point my youngest son (10) pipes up “”Martin” is being a real jerk! “Gail” is gonna be so mad!” My husband (sensitive bloke that he is) said that it was “Gail’s” fault since she was giving him a hard time. It went on with “show her you’re not going to take it” “she’ll be sorry” type of statements. I know he was trying to egg me on, but I’m wondering now if it wasn’t all in jest. (I was less than amused BTW, but gritting my teeth I glued my eyes to the TV and pretended to be sooo enthralled that I missed the entire conversation – I may have to cut out my tongue next time). In his defence, we would have these types of joking arguments in the past and I would have given as good as I got. Now there's nothing funny about it anymore. <P>

Moira2,<P>It's not a matter of you being too sensitive...<P>It's a matter of your H being insensitive! <P>I'm sorry...<P>I'll pray for you... <P>Jim

Moria2,<BR> I know just how you feel. I think I am more sensitive about those issues too. I am very careful about what movies I go to. Don't think I'll see After the Affair for a very long time if ever. There is a married guy I work with having a flirtation with a co-worker and it makes me sick to watch. <BR> I hope one day we won't be so touchy about it, but it is really thoughtless of your husband to push it right now. Seems they don't understand how hard it is on us sometimes doesn't it?<BR>Lora

moira2,<P>just wanted to let you know I'm still lurking around and reading your posts. Sometimes I think I'd be better off not knowing, but then I get mad at myself for wanting to be deceived. Don't stick your head in the sand like I have. <P>My H and I used to be the same, giving it out to each other and kidding......I know how hard it is to not read something into everything now. I'll post later with my update about the hidden phonecards and the pretend cover-up.<P>Thinking of you.