Ok, H and I are doing the Plan B thing right now. Yesterday he came over to our house to see the kids off the bus and watch them since I had an appointment with my therapist. Immediately following my appointment, I had to pick up my 13 year old from a school activity and he was 2 hours late (9:30pm). When I finally got home, H had fallen asleep on the sofa. He has a sleep disorder & is very hard to wake up and belligerent when waken. I just let him sleep there. He called me at work a little while ago and said he had been at the house all day and was going to spend time with the kids and get them going on their after school chores and then leave about 30 minutes before I get home. Why did he do this and why is he telling me about it? It's almost as if he wants to point out how little he actually wants to be around me. Or does he just want a pat on the back for "helping"? It's not that I don't appreciate the help. Then I thought I should have told him "thank you" for helping with the kids and all, but I was too busy wondering what his motive was. Do I sound paranoid or what???<P>------------------<BR>Keridwen

No,<P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>... is supposed to be <B>no contact</B>...<P>With children... sometime that is impossible and the best you can hope for is "minimal" contact.<P>...get H to the leave as soon as possible.<P>Best wishes, <P>Jim<p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited February 08, 2000).]