Hello,<P>This is a update to my last post titled "H's new computer possible restart to affair" My H replyed to that email and perhaps it will help if you read that one first. <P>Anyway. As he said in his reply OW called last night. H was already home from work and eating dinner. The phone rang and my heart jumped. Everytime that $%^& cell phone rings I think its her. Besides the computer the cell phone was how she talked to him daily from California to NY. <BR>So as I see it its just as evil of a pawn as this computer. <P>OW wanted help and advice on his family problems. She apparently is having trouble getting her college money adn ehr Dad and Uncle are fighting and both disowned her. Who care i said. She has made her life and has other friends to call. LEAVE my Husband alone. H swears this is the first time he has spoken to her. I believe him...sort of. But I now realize this will never end or be over. SHe will not GO away. All that Cr*p about "leave her alone and she will leave us alone" was a lie. Shes still wnats MY GUY. And she still needs him...and her neediness was what started thire relationship in teh first place. He had to save ehr and he felt loved....blah blah blah.<P>Who is gonna save me??? My mind is back weeks ago. Thire love is in the frount and I'm feeling like **** again. This wonderful pure love he "gave" up for me. SOme huge sacrafice.....on his part. It should of never happened...but i now ahev to share My H....his heart and his cell phone.....hehehe mild humor to lighten my increaseing angre.<P>HELP<BR>Confusedwife

Sorry me again....<P>I forgot to add that I'm job hunting now that I recieved my Nursing licence. I ahev several interviews this week and I will no longer be avaliable to watch H and be sure he comes home. With OW calling eh may get weak and go to her to "help" out and make her feel better. She can manipulate him and without my influence I'm scared he will lose teh battle and give in to her....THis would KILL me if he went to her just to "help".<P>Confusedwife

HAve you talked to him about how this contact makes you feel? Seems like he needs to send her a "No Contact" letter (I think NSR has posted a link to a sample one). He needs to know that no contact is important to let you heal (as well as to keep things from starting up again, which I'm sure he believes he can handle...)<BR>Kathi