My WW is currently deep in fog and firmly fixed in the withdrawal phase after her recent A. I have a few questions about that phase:

1- I've read that the length and relative intensity of the A affects the length and relative intensity of the fog/withdrawal. Is this true?

2- If it is true, how long should I expect the fog/withdrawal stage to last in my case (see my handle for details on my WW's A)?

(I'm especially interested in the answer to #2 if you are a WW with experience very similar to my own WW's A, or a BS in a situation similar to mine).

3- Does the fog lift suddenly, or does it happen over an extended period of time?

4- Are there any strategies outside of Plan A that people have found will help withdrawal move along more quickly? Obviously I want the fog to lift ASAP, so ideas are welcome, especially if they've worked for you.

5- Does the withdrawal period usually move faster for WW's or WH's? I ask because I'm in contact with OMW, and she has indicated that they are using MB as well (she actually pointed me here). I'm curious to know who will likely move out of withdrawal/fog faster (OM or WW).

Anyone with stories of coming out of withdrawal/fog, I'm interested, so please share!

Everyone is different, so it is hard to predict.

Will she agree to spend at least 15 hours a week doing fun things with you?

IP705,

Each WS is different. Just as you can't predict how long they will stay in love with OP, you can't predict how long they will take to get out of the fog.

Most infatuations (which is what your WW sounds like is having) run there course in about 6 months (how many stories have you heard about a WS who leaves, only to return 6-8 monts later begging the BS to allow them back?). Though some infatuations can last up to 2 years.

Once the infatuation runs its course, often the APs will go through a disenchantment phase, where they begin to more notice the faults of the other AP, and wonder what they saw in him or her. This happens in most romantic love affairs, infidelity or otherwise. If the couple can work through this disenchantment phase (often refered to as "the honeymoon is over"), and they still have attraction for each other, they can develop the real, mature, low chemistry love that marriages are built on.

In my case, my FWW had lied to me several times about NC. Her A continued for just about 6 months, the last 4 which were very intense sexually. However, she reached the disenchantment phase about the time I had discovered her latest lie, and that she had been still calling and seeing him for the prior 1-1/2 months. When I learned of the false NC, I exposed to her family. Between the disenchantment and the shame of exposure, she dropped out of the fog in about 2-3 weeks.

She has said, and I tend to agree, that if she had stuck with the original NC, back when their affair was at its peak and the sex was the best she had in her life ( ), she would have pined after him for a much longer time, not having the benefit of the experience of the subsequent disenchantment phase. So, I guess the length and intensity of withdrawal depends on what point or stage WS is in with OP when the A is ended.

I don't know that she would officially agree, but since d-day we spend a lot of time together (eating lunch & dinner almost every day, watching movies at night, shopping, and we spend at least an hour or two talking every day). So yes, there will be plenty of UA time, but it won't be official.

My WW never hit the disenchantment phase, and she's definitely pining. D-day happened as the affair was hitting its peak (almost daily sex that WW says was really good).

It sounds like I'm in for a long wait (6 months to 1 year). I'm hoping for 6 months, but that may be unrealistic.