Thanks for the brutal honesty. Was I looking for a answer to fix my problem no. Was I looking for you to tell me it was okay no. What I wanted was a way to look at this from the outside. My husband gave the site information.
I apologize for not believing you. I don't think a fogged active wayward shows up here unprovoked.
So for to say that my affair was okay was not my intentions. I know that my affair was not fair nor just to anyone. I'm not a druggy or a junkie.
You should think of yourself as one for the purposes of this affair process.
Nor do I expect that in the long run anything will come of my marriage or the one that I just made stronger for him and his wife. She called me today, we talked she wanted to know what we did that she didn't.Instead of taking the easy way out I told her the truth.
You're a peach. It was the second worst conversation of her life, I assure you.
Look, you are going to catch a lot of attitude here because 90 percent of us are gutted betrayed spouses, or were. If your husband is interested he should post here, because he is the one that is going to have to tote the water and he should know what he is in for if he decides to try and reconcile.
From your first post you are flopping around trying to keep both men in your life, which is typical.
What you have to do is never see, text, speak, phone, wave at a store, pass messages through a friend, or any other communication with your boyfriend, for life, up to and including staying the f away from his funeral.
Your husband should know that if you won't immediately commit to that, including job change or moving out of state, it will be less heartache for him to pack your stuff and dump it at the OM's house tonight. The OMW should be told that as well, since you are both totally untrustworthy of the medium future.
Again, my advice is send your husband here. He is the one that needs an education.
