OK, thanks, My Back Story: Married 8 years, kids grown but nearby, 2 mid-40 professionals. Friends for 20+ years when we were in different marriages. I thought all was well until credit card company calls and denies him credit for $200+ in Rx drugs. Then it comes out that he has been "helping" this 37-year-old recovering drug addict get back on her feet, regain custody of her children, etc. Apparently, this first began at least 3 months before my discovery, and it began as a friendship/sexual attraction, and was ultimately culminated. But now he claims that he hasnt had sex with her for several months, and now its more of him helping her get back on her feet. This "helping" means that he is entirely enveloped with her family (who are reluctant to help her coz she has burned them in the past), meeting her Dad, kids, going shopping, paying her rent (until she gets housing assistance/food stamps, etc.). Add to this (are you sitting down?) that she has a criminal record a mile wide, to include 14 counts of prostitution (all guilty). Well, my loving WH has even posted her latest $10,000 bond so that he "must" see that she goes to court in late January. So, there will obviously be contact at least thru the next month. Now, he is very honest about this, telling me in excrutiating detail all that I care to hear. He has totally ruined his financial situation, racking up about $10,000 - $15,000 in the last 6 months and is falling behind on his own bills. (Thankfully, I have maintained the house and my income/bills separately so I am not in dire straits along with him.) So not only is he appearing more and more worthless as a husband, but also as a self-sufficient man. NO ONE in our family, circle of friends, etc., support him in this (well, except the OW and her folks--why not, he's the knight in shining armor and $$$). Needless to say, my love account is near empty. But its hard not to miss the good days and hard to consider being alone.
I'd like any and all advice re Plan B letters, conditions; and coping skills. Thanks in advance.
