I was reading SMB's thread and it made me think, Hey, there are these little treasures of positive things during Plan B besides the normal removing your self from the madness or having your spouse go to OP to get needs met.

So...I thought for fun we could create a list of positives! Here's mine!!!

1. I gained massive closet space-do I have to give it back??
2. I now have dresser drawer with just bras in it! I love it!
3. I don't have to walk the home to find his stop and drop items.
4. I no longer have to pack MR. T2L's lunch every morning
5. I no longer have to walk on egg shells
6. I no longer have to clean up goatee or mustache trimmings on the bathroom sink that H said he cleaned up!
7. I can take up the whole King size bed for lil old me
8. This is one of my fav's I have my blankets on every night all night, no more gator rolls and robbing me of blankets!
9. The toilet seat is in down position!
10. I don't have to run myself crazy to keep house absolutely perfect since Mr. T2L has High domestic need!
11. Hey I don't have to wear makeup all the time!

Anyways you get the idea, whats yours?

That is tooooo funny!

"stop and drop items"

"no more gator rolls and robbing me of blankets!"



Stop and drop items are still a bit of an issue as I have to teenage DDs, but dayum that was funny!

Here's my list...

(Think of Al Bundy or the Man Show)

1. I can burp any time I want.
2. I can fart any time I want.
3. I can scratch any time I want.
3. I can scratch anything I want.
4. I can watch T.V. in the living room in my whitey tighteys...scratch burp and fart all at the same time.
5. I don't have to worry about ice berg female feet on me when I crawl into bed.
6. I can kick the covers off when I'm hot.
7. The thermostat is set at 62 in the summer and 62 in the winter because that's how I like it.
8. The toilet seat is always in the up position. (Men look before they sit. Apparently women don't)
9. I can use the shower without having to un-clog a 3 inch furball from the drain.
10. I can go out and eat a dinner without someone else saying "I'm not hungry" then eating half my meal.
11. What's for dinner? BEEF.
12. There are no bras hanging on the bed post, bathroom door knob, bedroom door knob, dresser knob, vanity knob, mirror, chair or anywhere else.

whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa? I thought my husband enjoyed having my icy feet on his backside????????????

I don't know how it is in your house Pep....

But in my house.. My WW had Ice berg extremities and I'm Hot blooded...

In the winter I'm the equivilant of a hot water bottle. And she froze...Until I got into bed.

Having your MIND back.

No obsessive thoughts.

Being able to think about something else, anything else.

Stupid little things, and then laughing.

Like this thread, hey Amazin?

and LAUGHTER.

Laughing again.

1. The biggest thing - I can sleep at night and not be kept awake with WH's snoring. The neighbors like it too.
2. My garage is totally clean and contains almost nothing except for the car. No tools, old car engines, oily cans, pieces of wood, broken yard tools etc.
3. My house looks the same at night as it did in the morning when I left.
4. I don't have to buy junk food - potatoe chips, cookies, regular coke
5. I can cook a healthy meal and eat whatever I want for dinner without worrying whether WH will eat it or not.
6. I can paint my walls pink - which I did
7. Don't have to wipe pee off the toilet seat every other day.
8. Bathroom mirror stays clean
9. Couch is always available
10. I don't have to hear anymore lies....

This is such a big, big thing. People who have not gone through this could probably never really understand. There are really no words big enough to describe what this does to a person, to a relationship, to someone's mind, spirit, etc.

There was no one I trusted by the time I got away. Not even best friends that I had gone to high school with.

The trust of other people comes back, albeit very slowly. I have such hugh regard for people who recover their marriages and stay with that person. I can't even begin to imagine the hurdles they must face.

No motorcycle parts in the livingroom.

No more reminders to change the oil in the car - hey, if the car still runs, why bother?

No complaining from ex when I forget to list a check I cashed - OOPS!

No more taps on the shoulder in the morning at 5:00AM for YOU KNOW WHAT. I'm not a SF before dawn person.

Weaves,

You are so right about the lies. My WH was one of the worst I've seen. It was a steady stream of lies for over two years. I could not believe anything that he said. It makes me question my entire 35 years with him now. I really wonder about some type of mental illness. Maybe it's called Waywarditis, I don't know.

And I don't know that I will ever be able to put enough trust into another man to justify M again. I now wonder about or question everything that anyone tells me. I hate being in that state of mind.

Hmm..this should be a fun diversion since I'm only on week 2 of Plan B.

1. King size bed to myself. (Even though I'm not sleeping well, it is nice laying wherever I want).
2. I can have the light on and read in bed as late as I want.
3. No more nagging
4. I can go to the gym (or anywhere else for that matter), whenever I want to.
5. I can buy whatever I want (as long as I can afford it of course).
6. If I want to eat dinner at midnight, I can.
7. I can drink right out of the 2 liter bottles.
8. I have so much less laundry to do.
9. I have so much less dishes to do.
10. The remote is mine...muhaaaahahahaha!

"10. The remote is mine...muhaaaahahahaha!"

Oh, yeah, this is one of the best benefits...............

"I can drink right out of the 2 liter bottles."

ICK - That is what my ex used to do that drove me crazy - drinking milk out of the gallon.

1. I can be MYSELF.... I just had to FIND her.
2. I haven't seen a violent or car show since he left.
3. I don't have to have someone elses opinion on what to do, I can make my own plans.
4. I don't have that stinky soap he used to wash his hands after working on a car.
5. I have heat.
6. I have a bathroom that isn't down to studs with a leaky sun roof and no heat.
7. I live in a virtual timeshare equipped with pool, hot tub, exercise room, beautiful grounds and wonderful people around me.
8. I don't have to listen to his passive put downs, or criticisms.
9. I am not lied to by the one person who promised so many things to me and trashed those words.
10. I can spend money as I like too or want to, depending on budget.
11. I had to learn to be accountable to my bills by myself.
12. I got to learn to be responsible for myself and learn how to take care of myself.
13. I don't have to feel like someone who is moping around the house is my responsibility or that I did something wrong and I have to fix it somehow.
14. If I want to volunteer I can volunteer. I can go to any AA meeting I want when I need it without worrying about HIS plans.
15. I don't have to go to a soccer game at 6:00 am on Saturday morning.
16. But above all else... the very best thing through Plan B, is my daily deepening relationship with G-d and becoming more and more faithful in trusting the future one day at a time.

:MerryChristmas: you guys

WW will be finished moving out this weekend. So in anticipation of Plan B:

1) Not have to endure being compared to her ex-husbands (they were SOOO much better than me...Hmmm why'd she divorce them, then?)
2) Not be criticized for almost everything I do at the house
3) Not have to ask to get a snack or something to eat in the kitchen after hours.
4) Not have to be blamed for her unhappiness anymore.
5) Not have to live with spouse who thinks it's ok to sleep in separate rooms for almost entire marriage.

These are the main ones. My WW trained me to never pee standing up. I always did my own laundry--my laundry day was Tuesday only. I only ate one meal a day at home-dinner. I had to ask her before I ate any other food aside from dinner, because she had plans for all the food. I always made late night milk runs to the grocery store whenever kids milk was running low. I "wasn't allowed" to help with any housework because I didn't do it right! Lot's more.

I was walking on eggshells at home. I see now that I was too much of a doormat. I thought at the time that it was better to give in to keep the peace. What a schmuck I was. Live and learn..

OY VEY you deserve a and bright future that G-d has in store for you.

:MerryChristmas:

You're kidding, right?

Nope, serious. That seat never goes up in our house. I don't know if I can break the habit and do it the other way now!!! Nice for future spouse though.

WHOA! Ya know your gonna have lots of kick butt time in Plan B doing guy things!

Sounds like maybe she didn't want to marry a man.