Just for the record, she has been treated with the "kinder, gentler" approach throughout this thread. I suspect the real problem is she doesn't like the CONTENT.

Yes I agree, I thought she was treated kindly; that's why I'm confused.

I am also very perplexed at Suddenly's response.

I re-read the entire thread and I don't see where anyone was mean, disrespectful or even terse with her. Nor did anyone call her a troll or insinuate as much. Quite the contrary, people have been very kind to her.

Suddenly,
Can you please help us out here???



Jo

whoa whoa whoa! Not a slice of content in this thread as well as the many many others I have read, bother me.

the problem is, what is written is not always read with the same intent of expression.

anyone can come in here and tell me go straight to h..l, it's anyone's right. I am merely saying, or trying to, everyone can agree to disagree.

I have never walked a mile in your shoes, nor will any of you walk a mile in mine. Myself, I am pretty much grateful on both sides for that.

this forum helped me deal with past issues I could not understand, or perhaps was supressing. This last relationship was not a matter of weeks, though to some it may seem as so. There is another matter of agree/disagree. That is neither here nor there. I have extracted myself from the whole situation and am figuring out what was weak in me to allow myself to even get in the situation. I am learning, everyday. And I am protecting my kids. That is what and all I need to do.

I am happy to be a member here, and I am very happy there are some wonderful people on this board.

I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas, ours was quite nice, though I have rambunticous teens

Can someone translate this for me please. I don't have a clue what it means.

Jo

Actually Suddenly, Adultery (Infidelity) is not special in any way.

The FACT is the ones comitting adultery say and do things that come right out of the Adultery "hand book". They are shockingly typical and predictable. After reading here for 8+ years, I and many vets can testify to this.

We don't need to "walk a mile" in someone's shoes who has experienced it. Most of us have already lived it and also read about it for YEARS.

Jo

suddenly, I have no idea what any of this means, but if you have an issue about something, it is up to you to explain your problem. Otherwise, it remains your problem. We aren't mind readers here.

Resilent...my apologies.. Melody made reference that perhaps I did not like the content of this thread...that is what I was referring

and I did not mean adultery only persay, as to walking a mile. Just in general overall life. As life gives us many twists and turns that others may or may not relate fully with.

Suddenly,

You wrote this:
I searched your entire thread and failed to find where ML or anyone was calling you a troll. Or even insinuating as much. Instead I found nothing but helpful supportive replys.

If its okay and since you're new I'd like to make a suggestion to please be careful about that kind of thing. It confused several of us here.

Thank you for your understanding.
Jo

Resilent- Melody

I am sorry, it was merely an "impression" I got. As I have said, what is written is not always preceived as the same.

I will watch how I post from now on not to confuse anyone

thanks

I'm sorry, I still do not understand the meaning of the above sentence. Would you mind rephrasing it, suddenly?

Thanks much!

Mrs. W

no Mrs Wondering I have no trouble rephrasing that for you.

nothing within this thread nor any other threads within this site have , "bothered" me, the content does not make me feel less towards another than I have, as previously stated. I am not bothered by the thumps, or 2x4's, or the acceptance. I am here to make a difference within my own life, as many who have come here have tried and succeeded to do so.

that's it, nothing more, nothing less. Sorry I confused you.

Thank you Suddenly...I appreciate the clarification...

I was also perplexed by your defensive post aimed at Mel...It just seemed so very out of place...You have received the nicest treatment I've ever seen given to an OW on these boards, so I'm sure you can see why everyone would have been so stunned by your post...Any chance you could expound upon what was up with that?

Also, I see that you said that you are also a BS...Have you ever posted under a different name on this site by chance?

Mrs. W

I totally agree Mrs Wondering it was out of place. Everyone has been kind to me knowing the diliema I found myself in. I never asked for kindness, was merely given it, and for that I am so very thankful.

it is hard to "see" the feelings within the post. If that makes sense? What one writes may not be as the reader undestands. As I think that is what happened.

no, I have never posted under another name. I was past most of the betrayal, but I still had nagging things I could not understand, that is why so many months ago I seeked to find an answer to what I did not comphrehend in my own life, that I now do

Thank you for clearing up my confusion, Suddenly.

I suppose I can see what you mean about things "reading" differently than they are meant...For instance, in your first posts to this thread I inferred that you were thinking that there was still a possibility of your family and OM's family "blending"...

You said:


-emphasis mine

Also, using the term "Plan B" implied that you were thinking that there was a chance of a future for you and OM.

It now appears that you have changed that stance and intend to have "no contact for life" with OM...Am I reading that correctly? Is that your intention? If so, I commend you...That is absolutely the right thing to do and will serve both you and your children well...

I hope that you can see clearly now that a relationship with OM would be an incredibly unwise choice that would wreak great havoc in many lives...May I ask what exactly changed between when you first started posting and now? Was there something in particular that you read either here on the forums or in the articles that changed your mind? I think that would be very helpful information for other posters to know, and I would appreciate it if you would share...

Best,

Mrs. W