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Rusty, she has not accepted her affair is over yet. She is still holding out hope she can get the OM to leave his wife. But once she loses her job and/or he leaves she will start to come around again.
The bullcrap about "i was going to come back but now I am not...." is meaningless fogtalk. You snatched the crack pipe from the crack head and he is angry and lashing out at you. See, you ruined her affair and she is still angry about it. As she withdraws from the OM she will come back. just hang in there.
And don't pay any attention to her words. She is a falling down drunk.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Let's see, where is my list.........
I would have worked on the marriage, but now I won't, you have gone too far, you are crazy, it is none of your business, how could you hurt the OP's family, you went about it the wrong way, you are controlling, this is the straw that broke the camel's back, I wanted to end things my own way, and my FAVORITE - I will never trust you again.
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Merry Christmas, Rusty! :MerryChristmas:
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Rusty, she has not accepted her affair is over yet. She is still holding out hope she can get the OM to leave his wife. But once she loses her job and/or he leaves she will start to come around again.
The bullcrap about "i was going to come back but now I am not...." is meaningless fogtalk. You snatched the crack pipe from the crack head and he is angry and lashing out at you. See, you ruined her affair and she is still angry about it. As she withdraws from the OM she will come back. just hang in there.
And don't pay any attention to her words. She is a falling down drunk. Exactly. She still tells me that she loves him and all that crap. She is holding out hope OM will leave his W. I really hope he changes his job or she/they get fired pretty soon. Please realise that most of what I say on here and worry about, I know the truth. It just helps to have others tell you the truth too. Makes you feel less crazy. lol I am greatly appreciative that you guys have been here for me through the roughest time in my life. A time where my W would have been great to lean on if she wasnt the problem.
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{RUSTY}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}] you have been a BRAVE SOLDIER and have hung in there even though it was very tough going all the way. May God rain his blessings on you. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Let's see, where is my list.........
I would have worked on the marriage, but now I won't, you have gone too far, you are crazy, it is none of your business, how could you hurt the OP's family, you went about it the wrong way, you are controlling, this is the straw that broke the camel's back, I wanted to end things my own way, and my FAVORITE - I will never trust you again. Why do I always love reading these lists? Merry Christmas, Rusty! :MerryChristmas: Thanks. Same to all of you.
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WW-27
Married 5 yrs. together for 8
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At least OM name wasn't John Redcorn. lol
That would have been too much.
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OMW txted me about 3 hours ago. She found his affair phone.
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So she seems to have paid more attention to you than she was willing to admit to...
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OMW txted me about 3 hours ago. She found his affair phone. What did she say?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Exposure works. It may not be apparent at first. It sometimes needs time to cause doubts to build that will then motivate the OMW to become vigilant.
What did the OMW say the phone revealed?
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I bet OM's W is paying full attention now!
It will become much more difficult for them to stay in contact now. Exposure works!
Now stay away from Love Busters, and meet her needs. She's going to fall to the depths of despair in the next couple of weeks.
Be there for her.
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
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She txt me and said that she found the phone today, that my W gave it to him, and that it doesnt work now because she threw it up against the wall. She said it hadnt been used since the 19th. I am thinking that since she knows when it was used(which was the last day they met up) that she probably believes me now that they did actually get together last Friday. Maybe she will start believing me now...or not.
Thanks guys, you're the greatest.
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YOU are doing the work! We are cheerleaders on the sidelines. You keep up Plan A and WW will come out of the fog, get through withdrawal, and you can begin work on recovery.
Keep on keeping on!
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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YOU are doing the work! We are cheerleaders on the sidelines. You keep up Plan A and WW will come out of the fog, get through withdrawal, and you can begin work on recovery.
Keep on keeping on! Thanks for those words. Just like in the big game, the chearleaders are the ones that pump up the team to give them what they need to go win. Great job guys...now how about a pyramid?
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No pyramid here, but
Bang Bang Choo Choo Train c’mon Rusty do your thang: (knee, clap, snap) get it get it got it got it boom and let it roll: (knee, clap, slap)
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OK, in my plan A should I call and txt her with things like have a good night at work, or asking how work went...or should I wait on her to call/txt me? Just want to make sure of the whole smothering thing.
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Do the same amount you would have done while you were dating.
Good thing OMW is the violent kind, lol!
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Apparantly not violent enough. She didnt really believe me about last Friday partly because OM showed up at her work @ 9:30 to bring her something she forgot at home. I found out 2 days ago that WW was with him when he went to his W work. OM made my WW get out of the car and wait on him while he actually pulled up to her work and ran in. lol What she will do and go through to be with him. Pathetic.
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