Hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas!

Mine was quite wonderful,,,,in spite of a few 'incidents'. How about a little Christmas story? I'll begin with the evening of the 23rd,,,,,,,,

I went shopping with V for a few last items and we made a few stops for him to get some things done. Back home to my place early. The weather was mostly rainy, but with a slight change in temp, it was getting a little slick out, but mostly on the driveways and sidewalks.

We did have a bit of a talk about 'us'. I again shared with him that I am not at the same 'place' he is and that I may never be. I don't want to be unkind or hurtful, but I just don't see us being together 'forever' the way he does. He, on the other hand, is apparently willing to do/say/be anything it takes to make it work. That is not going to work out. But,,,I want everyone to enjoy the holidays, so we shelved any further discussion for now.

He left to go pick up his boat and go home. He and his DS were to go duck hunting the next morning. He called a few hours later,,,someone had hit the boat & knocked him into the ditch due to slick roads. Good news was not too much damage to the boat and he was back on the road.

Well, he was back on the road for about 5 minutes. Hit a slick spot and slid into the ditch AGAIN! He was the 3rd car that slid off the same place. While on the phone with me, I hear him yell, "LOOK OUT! HERE COMES A CAR!!!" And the phone went dead.

My heart stopped!

2 minutes later he did call back. It was a CLOSE call. Another car slid off about 2 feet from where he & another guy had been standing. Missed his truck by inches!!

He told me they had called 911 for the people in the latest car,,,just bumps & bruises, but they had small kids. He said he'd call me in the morning.

4 a.m. I receive a text message from his daughter asking if I knew where her Dad was. Seems they were at Grandma & Grandpa's (v's parents) - they just woke the kids up and were taking them to their mom's house,,,,,,,,,,V wasn't home & they did not know where he was.

I'll cut down on the exact details, but via text message with his daughter over the next several hours, it became apparent that his family was thinking the worst,,,,,,,,,but not telling the kids,,,,,,,,,,until 9 a.m. when I get a text from his DD,,,,,,,"My daddy is gone. He is dead". She'd said several times throughout the morning that her mom or someone in the family would be calling me.

I hit the floor. I didn't feel that I could call her,,,they were together as a family and I felt that I would be intruding where I did not really belong. Especially because her mom has had a lot of 'issues' with my being around. So I just sat here in shock. After a bit, I did call my best friend who knows V, as well as my parents. I didn't really know what to do with myself and figured I'd hear something once things settled down later. There was nothing I could do.

I felt so sick for his DS and DD. He is their world and they were his.

Then,,,,,,,,2 hours later came the Christmas Miracle. I received another text that 'they had it wrong!! it's not him! He's upstairs in a room & we are going to see him"

I hit the floor again!!

Seems with being transferred from one hospital to another, the family had been given wrong information. He was alive, and actually not severely injured! A bump on the head, some scrapes, and a lot of bruising,,,,,that's all.

I can't describe how crazy the entire day felt. I was just so thankful to God for the sake of his kids that he was ok. I didn't talk to him until late in the afternoon. There was still a great deal of confusion about what went on, and I still have a lot of questions, but the important thing is that he & his kids were together for another Christmas and THAT is such a wonderful blessing.

I won't bother you right now with the details of the next story, , which should be titled, "When a BS receives the gift meant for HO2". Yep!! You won't believe that one either,,,,I still don't!! ha!

I gotta run,,,I have hungry children in need of some breakfast. I'll try to drop in again later today!!

BUGS!!!! Don't leave us in suspense too long girl! Get back here and finish the story!!!

OMG! What an incredible miracle!

I can't imagine what you must have been going through - and the fact that you could not really be a part of the grieving family.

Thank goodness he is alright and was reunited with his children.

That is so amazing!

Take care ...

And I'm waiting for the next story.

Fox

Ok, I'll have to make this quick.


Drac drops off the kids yesterday,,,,and they come in with a wrapped box. Of course, Ladybug wants me to open it right away.

So, as I am opening it, I ask, "Who wrapped this?"

Answer, "Daddy did".

Under the wrapping paper is a cardboard box,,,,,,that has the shipping labels still on it,,,,,,,,,,,It was a box from MY house! It was from something I'd ordered, and apparently he took out of my recycle bin when he was here sometime??!!

WEIRD!

So, I open the cardboard box and inside is a stuffed teddy bear holding some bath & body products. They are just a slight step up from the Wal-mart Grandma products I got last year,,,,but just slightly.

Anyway,,,,,,,,,,,

Also inside the cardboard box is another smaller, gift wrapped box.

So, I say, "Oh look, I get another one??"

Ladybug jumps up and say, "Oh, no! "

I said, "What? Let me guess, this isn't for me?"

Reply, "No that is for Ho2"

Yes,,,,,that is right. Inside MY gift is a wrapped gift for Ho2!!!

You can only imagine what I wanted to do at that point!! :crosseyedcrazy:

DSS gets on Ladybugs, saying "Be quiet".

Ladybug responds, "She already knows, DSS!"

I told DSS that I knew about Ho2. Just a flat statement of fact.

I took the wrapped gift and put it upstairs. They could tell i was upset,,,,,,,,,,,Ladybugs asked, "Mommy, did this ruin your Christmas?"

I told her, "No, this did not ruin my Christmas. It is very rude and thoughtless of your Daddy, but no, it did not ruin my Christmas".

So, I went about getting us back on track unwrapping the rest of our gifts and having a good time. I did not mention it again.

Can you believe this????????????? I still can't!!

Now, I'm not sure what I'm going to do with it.

I have considered many options, but am willing to take your ideas first!! I'll bet you can give me some great suggestions!!!

Bring it on MBers!!!

Personally, if it didnt have a label with Ho2's name on it...I would open it and claim it as my own.


Might be a step up on the 'grandma' gifts

open it - if it's something you can't use - give it to charity

Open it.

He put it in "your" gift. Must have been a Freudian slip. And Possession is 9/10 of the law.

Stupid WS.

I would not return it to him. Stupid WS. [Oh, I just said that.]

Drac is an effing idiot. I would open to see what she got. See if it's the same Walmart variety O'DToilette that you got.

Bugs,

I would certainly NOT return to Drac! It was in YOUR box...

I would open it....then give it 'away'... or just give it away if you don't want to bother.

What a maroon...

Send it back with the kids with a note to that effect for their next visit...

Or wait for him to ask.

Such a flibbertigibbet...

A real DOLT...

Hope he's looking all over for it...

And then realizes where he put it... :MrEEk:

It'd serve him right...

Not fog. Just STUPID...

Welll..I most definitely would NOT return it...

I definitely would OPEN it..and then would proceed with an action that would bring ME the most JOY...

OY VEY

That's it... I seriously think we need to come up with a way to bottle the WS insanity and make MONEY on it and meet up on a CRUISE..

You just can't imagine this stuff in a sane mind...



I would SO OPEN IT and make MY CHOICE as to what to do....

Hi Mimi,

How are you?

Oh. Oh!

Could that have something to do with gasoline or some form of explosives or maybe something in a large caliber handgun?

OK. I'll change my vote to THAT....

I'm not too late am I?

Seriously...

You do what YOU think is he right thing to do. The potential is here for a really big slap in the face for Drac.

But it could go the other way as well. What the present is could hurt you as much or more than getting it by mistake.

You know it wasn't intended for you. If it was for anyone else, what would you do with it?

It's kind of an ethical question to me. I KNOW the revenge factor could be high, but is that the most important part of this?

You could slap him in the face and still not lower yourself to his level. Or you can do what he will use against you in the future and what the kids will remember as the time Mom tried to get even and took a detour from the moral high road.


Right now you are Ladybug's hero...

What will opening a gift she knows you got by mistake say to her?

Drac's a doofus. Ho2's a Ho. They deserve each other.

Why try to become one of them?

JMHO.

Mark

You sir, are the voice of my reasoning and I am glad you are here. Very good point....

I guess I still have lots to pray for....

Hey Bugs Bomb. DGS and I just logged on and read this.

Keep the gift. Open the gift. Burn the gift. But it was in a box to you. It's yours to deal with. I believe the term is "with extreme prejudice."

He is either a total bafoon or an idiot. No in between.

Here is DGS:

Hi there! This is DGS. I can't believe this man is so stupid. He has sunk to an all time low. Please open that gift and let us all know what he got Ho2. This is the first time I have entered MB and I have to tell you as a girlfriend to Chrisner I think you are a really unbelievable group of people. I am so sorry that you had to endure this stupidity in front of your children, I give your an incredible amount of credit for keeping it together. Thank you for letting me be a part of this Merry Christmas to all and I hope 2009 is a great year for all of you!!!!


Chrisner is back. Bugs, I hope beyond this you had a great Christmas. Take care Bugsy! You are a great mom.

chrisner.

Me too, Queenie.

Mark...you, Sir, are a very WISE man.

... how soon we forget that one of our biggest role as a parent is that we provide a MODEL for our kids to follow....

The challenge at hand than is how to do BOTH, protect Bugs' feelings AND be the role model you want to be...

Exactly. I would think to protect Bugs' feelings would be for her NOT to open the gift. Why set yourself up for that kind of pain if it turns out to be something fabulous? I would send it back with no note, nothing. Let DD see mom act with class in response to a classless act.

(You don't want to hear what I thought at first. I had some GREAT ideas... )

HUH???

Mark, not too sure how opening the gift does THIS??

I had a different take on it...how GOD works in mysterious ways..how such things as this happen to EVILDOERS..probably what I would tell my child..would provide her with a LESSON on what happens to those who do WRONG..you will SUFFER the consequences of your actions...your wrongdoings will continually come back to haunt you..you will slip up..you will make mistakes..you will get caught..what you do in the dark, comes out in the light, etc., etc....

But what do I know??

I know this. I,personally, still would definitely OPEN it and probably would destroy it somehow..in a gloriously PRIVATE moment..wouldn't share with my child or anyone...such a personal, ADULT-ORIENTED EVENT...

Still, IMO, Bugsy should do what will make HER happy...she deserves REPARATIONS for what has been done to her by Drac and what he continues to do to her, IMO...

Protect Bugsy's feelings??? Bugsy is TOUGH...she can handle whatever TRASH is in that box...and I guarantee you, it is TRASH..

Mimi - you said that God works in mysterious ways.

I agree.

But encourage a more Godly response to this.

First, Bugs - dear. Consider you have been sent TWO messages from God in the last 24-48 hours.

One - a man who adores you and his family adores him nearly taken from this life. A man who by your own words is caring, mature, and not playing with your heart.

Two - a man who is crass and careless with women and your daughter and your stepson has also revealed himself to you.

You are a lady of grace. You have a graceful daughter. What would be the graceful thing to do?

Open the gift and try to hide further hurt from your very perceptive daughter?

Deliberately take a wound into your heart that you don't need to take?

Or recognize the gift of the contrasts between the two men - that gift very fittingly personalized you from the Lord of All on the day we celebrate His birth...

Peace, girlfriend. You don't have to hurt yourself any more.

Choose the graceful thing and let your heart love again. Love the right man.

I think the problem here is that the kids KNOW that she has it and they may go back and tell Drac about that...I really don't see DSS doing it or Ladybug doing it on purpose but it may slip in conversation...

I think I would ask them what they think should happen to the gift, then you can also get a feel for how they feel about her too...

DSS is very protective isn't he? Does want to hurt your feelings? Has he always been like that?

Bugs, have you examined your feelings with the sitch with V after all that drama? Just wondering if that was a wake up call for you? Have you thought about that anymore?

Miss you!