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Originally Posted by believer
Painting sounds good. Also, do you have any walls that you need to knock down? That would be helpful. Also tossing stuff out and organizing.

I ripped up our carpeting. I love hard wood and that was what was underneath. Thanfully, it was in good shape. wink



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If you are used to running, I think that is the best exercise. I'm an old lady and I run 5 miles EVERY day. It doesn't take long, and feels GREAT.


Wow, B! Five miles every day. That is impressive. Good for you!


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Originally Posted by sexymamabear
I had no Rescue Remedy on hand on D-Day. frown

What's that? What's Rescue Remedy?

Oh no offense taken to any one. I've thought about it and I am going to try to keep to the natural course and IF for any reason I wig out then I'll consider it. For now, guess I'll be off to the vitamin store. That's oddly enough a Disneyland type place for someone like me. I love the Health food store even if I don't buy anything, its such an adventure...Hey is that laughing I hear?

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Yes, run to the vitamin store. Don't forget vitamin B.

I am a health nut and have used anti-D's, and I don't even take aspirin. But exercise works much quicker.

My problem was that when I was depressed after D-day, I just couldn't make myself exercise.

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What's that? What's Rescue Remedy?



LINK for what is rescue remedy & use


You can order this online or check with health food stores.
LINK for online store that carries rescue remedy


Hope that helps






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Originally Posted by Trying2live
Oh yeah forgot to mention last night in my pissed offness i shut down my MySpace that the Poophead Mr. T2L was looking at and changed the answer machine to the computer generated voice so he cant hear me and just in case he remembered the family website, changed the password too so he can't get in.

Feel better about that, and I know that throwing your wedding rings into a park field in the dead of night was probably wrong, but actually feel better about that too. I actually feel really good about that oddly enough.

Because you took action

action is a pretty good anti depressant

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Well guess what folks we have(you see how I say we and included you all...LOL) our 1st break in PB boundaries by Mr. Poophead himself!

That rat just sent me a text! That bloody stinkin RAT! It took 6 weeks and 2 days for him to do it but, he did it. NO worries I did NOT respond and I AM NOT going to! Sorry bud but you messed with the wrong girl and your gonna figure out what you need to do and that's it it it it it! rant2

I would not have read it as it was out of the blue and totally unexpected because he hasn't tried contacting me directly.

So IM's I am going to be sending you a email, but give me about an hour, gotta compose it.

Ok here's why. Had 2 overdraft charges by accident due to Christmas shopping. Its not something I do normally, but still. That's what drew his but out??? (2)$35 charges!

ARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!


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I'll be emailing you shortly too, now that a zillion defrags has my computer functioning nearly normally again.

Send us the info, we'll do a little IM huddle and decide how to handle it.

GREAT job not responding.

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OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1



Ok I have not renewed DS10 cell phone as I do not want his dad going straight to him.

Guess what he just sent DD17 on her cell phone? A picture of DS10 new cell phone MY GOD WHAT IS NEXT?!?!?!?

Do I have to give this phone to my son?????



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Man, he's just *desperate* for some sort of contact!

Re. DS10's cell phone: You are the parent in your house. You make the rules of your house as you see fit and in consideration of what's best for the family. If he turns into Mr. Sugardaddy himself and you think it isn't good for the kids to have a ton of materialistic and expensive gifts, you have the right - you have the responsibility! - to not allow harmful or inappropriate things into your house.

Perhaps you could FedEx the phone to your IMs with an explanation. Hmmm, if he doesn't talk to the IMs how will he ever find out what happened to his cell phone, and how will he ever get it back? whistle

(I bet the IMs know that there's a charity that takes unwanted cell phones and distributes them to women's shelters. wink Of course that's only if he never claims it!)

I'm sure he IMs are handling this texting to you business. This is a great opportunity to force the issue of the IMs. If you refuse to communicate directly to him, and if DD17 can keep saying just "IDK", then what's left??? stickout

BIG HUGE KUDOS BTW on eliminating the online contact he had, via MySpace etc! hurray

All these closing avenues, it sure seems like he's getting more and more desperate... SUCH is the power of DARK!!!!! GO DARK!!!!!


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All these closing avenues, it sure seems like he's getting more and more desperate... SUCH is the power of DARK!!!!! GO DARK!!!!!

I love that laugh It really does seem like he is upping the ante here.

hug pray hug T2L


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Originally Posted by tst
LINK for what is rescue remedy & use


You can order this online or check with health food stores.
LINK for online store that carries rescue remedy


Hope that helps

That's awesome!!!! I'm going to the Health food store tomorrow. Already called them and they have it in. Yeah!


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GOOOOOO TOWARRRRRRRD THE DAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRKKKKKKKKKKK!!!!!!!!!!!

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Don't underestimate the power of the Dark Side, Luke....


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Originally Posted by jayne241
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Don't underestimate the power of the Dark Side, Luke....


{{{{Luke}}}} I am your {{{{{Father}}}}}} Ok I had to! dance2


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“The dark side of the Force is a pathway to many abilities, some considered to be unnatural.”

-Senator Palpatine


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Originally Posted by Neak
GOOOOOO TOWARRRRRRRD THE DAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRKKKKKKKKKKK!!!!!!!!!!!

rotflmao rotflmao rotflmao

Is it still considered dark if I paint myself in glow in the dark paint while I'm going dark?



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Yoda quotes just for T2L!!!!

"Already know you that which you need..."
"Many of the truths that we cling to depend on our point of view."
"Once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny, consume you it will..."
"You will know (the good from the bad) when you are calm, at peace. Passive." A Jedi uses the Force for knowledge and defense, never for attack. "
"Adventure. Heh! Excitement. Heh! A Jedi craves not these things."
"Always in motion is the future."
"Powerful you have become, the dark side I sense in you."

Yup, I am that nerdy laugh


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This is something I have been wanting to post to you for several days, but wasnt sure about one bit. Thanks for giving me the go ahead smile The purple bits are particulary for you.

Desiderata


Go placidly amidst the noise and haste
and remember what peace there may be in silence
As far as possible without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others;
even the dull and ignorant, for they too have their story
Avoid loud and agressive persons for they are vexatious to the spirit

If you compare yourself with others you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your career, however humble,

for it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time

Exercise caution in your business life for everywhere there is trickery
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism

Be yourself

Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings;
many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars.

You have a right to be here

And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Be at peace with God, whatever you conceive him to be
And whatever your labours and aspirations, keep peace in your soul
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams it is still a beautiful world

Be cheerful

Strive to be happy.





Max Erhmann 1927


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Okay so Lildoggie told me how to add pics to your posts so I'm gonna try it.

Here's a couple pics of the T2L family, of course with out Mr. T2L. Hope it works.


T2L, DD17 and DS10 in May 08

T2L, DD17, and DS10 June 08



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Read SAA Sept 08 Plan A 10/03/08 thru 11/15/08
Plan B 11/15/08-currently
01/18/09 Plan B crack w/phone call restating PBL
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Originally Posted by lildoggie
Yoda quotes just for T2L!!!!

"Already know you that which you need..."
"Many of the truths that we cling to depend on our point of view."
"Once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny, consume you it will..."
"You will know (the good from the bad) when you are calm, at peace. Passive." A Jedi uses the Force for knowledge and defense, never for attack. "
"Adventure. Heh! Excitement. Heh! A Jedi craves not these things."
"Always in motion is the future."
"Powerful you have become, the dark side I sense in you."

Yup, I am that nerdy laugh


Man that darn Yoda has it goin on! I am just wondering if I shoulda married Yoda instead??

LMAO


Me-39 H-38/Married 19years/DD18 & DS10
Dday EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08
Moved in w/Sea Hag 08/01/08
Read SAA Sept 08 Plan A 10/03/08 thru 11/15/08
Plan B 11/15/08-currently
01/18/09 Plan B crack w/phone call restating PBL
01/31/09 Planned brief contact
02/15/09 Delivery of Planned 2nd PBL
Filed for D Dec 2009 Recovering well!
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