Hmmm makes sense to me.

So I can see that it might take a bit longer, because he figures you'll cave eventually... he may think that with there being one tactic, then another, then another, that may be why he thinks this is just another game. He'll eventually see that it isn't, that this is for real.

Which reminds me, are you making changes in yourself that you want to make? Changes you want to make for yourself... and also possibly changes that he would've liked? For example, (I hope it's ok that I tell this?) Lil said Flick used to complain that she wasn't "friendly". Yeah I know... but that was one of his complaints. So, for herself and also as part of working to eliminate LBs, she went out and made friends, got involved in motorcycles etc., which increased her happiness and also made Flick desire her more.

You're dark now of course, but you could still be working on becoming that hot attractive woman you wanna be.

I gotta admit, I feel a bit silly telling you that, cus you ALREADY ARE an awesome hot attractive woman! But do you have plans, things you always wanted to do? Are you keeping socially active with friends? If he finds out anything about you, you want it to be that you are having a great life without him, that you are desirable and not just sitting around waiting for him; and that these changes are for real, not just a ploy to get him back.

Sorry, I think I rambled. I hope I made sense. You are already awesome so I feel silly suggesting you improve! I hope you KWIM.

No worries.

And you know what is funny now??? He complains because a) I have friends and he doesnt really (locally) in fact he told someone he is treated a bit like a leaper, and B) that I have always had more friends than him.

Just another example of untrue fogbabble that is revealed when exposed to the light

Heck yeah we are!!



Charlotte

Well one of his complaints was I didn't listen so I worked really hard and 180'd as best I could during PA. He never complained about SF as I never denied but i never initiated so that's why I pursued him during PA and did the whole lap dance thing.

He never really complained too much to me. He said I was naive on occasions if I didn't agree.

He was talking to the secretary at the corporate office 2 weeks after dday(she told me the convo) he complained that I was perfect and beautiful and everyone loves me and she looked at him kinda shocked and said well okay Mr. T2L what is the problem and he says in complete exasperation IDK!

What do you do in that case? I did work overtime to make him happy and do everything absolutely everything so he was comfortable and happy. Lot a good that did eh?

Jayneypooh!
Hmm trying to think what else he could have complained about....I'll have to think.

I think he knows that T2L is a people pleaser and I like when everyone is happy even if its at the cost of my happiness but I felt happy when everyone was happy. So in a weird way PB is good in showing him that I am stronger than he thinks and I am not going to people please. I have always told him how much I loved him and that I couldn't live with out him so PB is showing him that I can get along with out him. Does that count even tho he didnt complain about it?

Um, he hated my healthy ways-eating good, taking vitamins, exercising and avoiding sugar.

He did not love going to church as much as I did and wanted to take more breaks, so DD17 did tell him that I have taken a few weeks off. My Pastor actually thought the leak to him might be good since he had previously said that.

Can't really think of much else.

Can someone please translate what the heck that means? LOL

THINGS LEARNED LIVING IN TEXAS

~ A possum is a flat animal that sleeps in the middle of the road.

~ There are 5,000 types of snakes and 4,998 of them live in Texas

~ There are 10,000 types of spiders. All 10,000 of them live in Texas .

~ If it grows, it'll stick ya. If it crawls, it'll bite cha.

~ 'Jaw-P?' means, 'Did y'all go to the bathroom?

~ There is no such thing as 'lunch.' There is only dinner and then there is supper.

~ Iced tea is appropriate for all meals, and you start drinking it when you're two. We do like a little tea with our sugar.

~ "Backwards and forwards" means "I know everything about you."

~ The word 'jeet' is actually a phrase meaning, 'Did you eat?'

~ You don't have to wear a watch, because it doesn't matter what time it is. You work until you're done or it's too dark to see.

~ You measure distance in minutes.

~ You switch from heat to A/C in the same day.

~ You only own five spices: salt, pepper, Texas Pete, Tabasco and Ketchup.

~ The local papers cover national and international news on one page, but require 6 pages for local gossip and high school football.

~ You know all four seasons: Almost summer, summer, still summer, and Christmas.

~ Fried catfish is the other white meat.

Hey T2L, well I have been up really late yet again tonight. I had an off day today. Worried about going back to work and dealing with all of this. Husband is in Las Vegas with the OW. really sucks.
Everything still quiet at your house. Thinking of you. Could use some of your strength this week.
Keep praying for each other. Stay strong

Haha, I learned this growing up in TN! Must be a Southern thang

VERVE!!!!!!!!!!! Are you a VOL?????? ME TOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!



Well, bawn in nawth Jawja, gruhp in east Tinuhsee. Which state are you from: East, Middle, or West Tn?

With all these Texans, I was starting to think they were the only southerners around. I was reading that list and thinkin, "That ain't just Texans!" Well except the bit about everything that grows'll stick ya and everything that crawls'll bite ya.

I thought Oz cornered the market on poisonous spiders and snakes.


I *SWEAR* that's how you tell the difference between Yankees and Southerners. Go through any drive-through and when they ask what you want to drink, just say "tea". If you get iced tea that had the sugar added whilst still hot so as to get it supersaturated, you are south of the Mason-Dixon line. Seriously, though, drive north from North carolina, and go through the first fast-food restaurant after crossing the M-D line, and ask for "tea". You will get iced tea that has nary a cube of sugar.

Keep going north. When you cross over into Canada, if you ask for "tea" you will get a cup of hot tea. :MrEEk: If you ask for "ice tea" you will get a powdered Lipton drink mix that will have lemon and sugar flavoring.

Re: Tea, american.

Eww.

I have Dilmah Ceylon tea. Milk, no sugar. Hot.

Cold. Eww.
Sugar. Eww.
Lemon. Eww.

That absolutely counts!!! He will see soon enough that these changes are for real, you really are strong, you aren't gonna cave just cus he complains or disapproves or gets angry.

I don't suggest you get fat and frumpy, stop going to church, eat cake and ice cream every night, and live in a pigsty just because he "complained" that you were perfect.

You are awesome, lady. If he's lucky he'll smarten up. You'll be ok either way.

I had a Yankee friend who never liked ice tea, only hot tea... until she came down south and tasted REAL tea. The reason ice tea doesn't taste good is cus Y'ALL DON'T PUT ENOUGH SUGAR IN IT!!!!!

I remember as a kid... tea was always the drink served with supper. In tall glasses, with teaspoons. You can barely find teaspoons anymore. I don't mean coffee spoons, those spoons that fit in a coffee cup and are smaller than soup spoons. I mean, long-handled spoons that will reach to the bottom of a long tall glass, so you can stir up all the sugar that sedimented out, between each sip.

I'm an East Tennessean baby!!!! I BLEED orange (and if I didn't my family would make sure that I did...bleed that is haha!). I absolutely love and I'm proud of (and to be from) my southern family. We don't have the same views on things, but I was raised well...lemme tell ya!

OMG, I nearly had tea (how appropriate) come out of my nose when I read this! Too funny and oh-so-true!

As for the tea thing...you gotta have sugar with the tea. I also like a little lemon, but lots and lots of sugar. No hot tea or unsweetened for me. I also like Sun tea...yum. There's nothing like a glass of iced tea dripping condensation on a sultry summer day in the south. Say that last part three times real fast!

Sorry, but I just gotta

My nana always put sugar in my tea when I was little and stayed with her. I used to wait until she was watching telly and then tip it down the sink.

Ick, ick, ick

OMG, I know! I can't find those anywhere...well other than my great aunt's and my Nanny's (grandmother's) kitchen. We also used those to eat cornbread and milk. Have you had that? Get an ice cold glass of milk and crumble cornbread in it...yum! You could scoop it out with a teaspoon and it was all soggy and full of milky goodness. Man, I need to make that for my kiddos. It just reminds me of sitting on the porch with my grandmother and helping her shell green beans. Craziness...

I am a displaced East Coast girl that landed in Texas 2.5 years ago. I am an outcast because I do not drink cold or hot Tea. Give me coffee.
If you are wondering why so many Texans are on this board is that 55% of marriages in Texas end in Divorce. If I knew that I never would have moved here (can't blame the state only the man).

I had to ask T2L what sun tea was.
She told me
THAT is digusting!

I am bringing my own tea bags over with me.

You are not allowed to touch it. Any of you.

I would slip some good ole sugary tea in your cup when you weren't looking then point and laugh when you spit it out. Hahah

Uh oh! I bet it was major culture shock huh?

Oh yes!!! Did y'all have a little iron thing to bake cornbread so it looks like little corncobs?

Lil, this tea in which you didn't like sugar... was it perchance *hot*???

And if you ain't never been outside in weather so hot that your bike tire will explode on the asphalt, then you don't appreciate the necessity of an ICE COLD DRINK with enough caffeine and sugar to keep body and soul together.

Seriously, one time in NC I was riding in a 100-mile bike ride, it just happened to be in the middle of a heat wave. A heat wave. In NC, in July... as if NC in July wasn't hot enough on its own. A whole bunch of folks had tires blow out. We finally figured out, it was the heat.

I'm a wuss now. When we're in the South in summer, my H is more able to handle the heat than me. I just don't get it. He also likes it colder than me in the winter.

But I've converted him, he now likes collard greens, fried okra, sweet potato casserole, .....