Is it normal for a wayward spouse and the OW to break it off for some time ten get back together again?

I've been reading the site for a while and my WS has been with the OW (on and off) since May 2007...now they are back together.

Yep. The format can change in any time.


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Do they work together or regularly see each other? Live close together? What is your situation?

They live in the same city.

We are separated, have been for a year and a half. The last time I spoke to my husband was last December.

December 2008 or 2007?

Give us more of your background.

This background will take quite a while if you have written before.

They live in the same city and the last time I spoke to him was Dec. 2007.

We've been married since 2004, have two children, one that he has never seen in person b/c I moved away during the 7th month of my pregnancy. I don't even know where to begin...

I decided to move away for my own sanity and to be closer to relatives. I found out my WH was cheating on me and he is still with her...got back together again with her. It seems like she is not giving up.

He filed for a divorce before but it got dismissed b/c he never amended it. It was actually quite weird and didn't make sense (his complaint). Deep inside, I really feel like the OW pressured him to do it b/c it was done so sloppy. And they both changed their number. I have his new one but figure it's been over a year in this "plan B" why break it.

I recently saw pics of him and OW on a website and she was kissing him...she had this type of picture animation slide which was titled "hubby and wife forever...through thick and thin..."

She's the total opposite of me! She smokes marijuana, drinks, curses, has casual sex (when they broke it off for a while), posts half-naked pics of her on another personal space website, which I bet he doesn't know about...I just don't get it.

She was on facebook and the reason why Iknew they got back together was b/c her status was all of a sudden set to "it's complicated".

Which then I knew she knew we are still married....BUT she STILL decides to pursue him and he still wants to be with her?

Why hasn't he filed again but also hasn't called in such a looooooong time? I would've figured he would be at least concerned about the children.

I mean what can I do right now? I've filed child support and the judge in the state he lives in is ordering $74 a month for TWO children! But I am in the process of filing a petition to modify it so maybe it can be increased way more or have the case moved to where the children live. The office of child support here in California said that the other state has jurisdiction over WH so the order has to be enforced there....but I spoke to some attorneys and they told me the opposite. I have an over the phone consultation with an attorney in the other state next week.

Ok, I found out where he works. Have any of you served papers, whether it be divorce, legal separation, child support and custody/visitation at your WS's job?

I also found out on one of the personal sites that OW believes the divorce went through because she said she saw the papers.

Dumb questions...he's lying to her, right? And he should know the order on the case said "dismissed with out prejudice for plaintiff's failure to amend..etc" not "divorce granted".

Or could he have shown her the paper but she misinterpreted it and so did he?

And another questions, my husband, even his male family members always said that one thing they admire about him is that once he has ended a relationship with someone, he doesn't do this yo-yo thing...he doesn't go back to them and starts the relationship again, he leaves the them alone.

So why, is this person different?

Another piece of information I learned..the OW says he can't have anymore children b/c he got a vasectomy done...but I know my husband, he is afraid of hospitals. He has never gone to the doctor or even the dentist while we were together. He didn't even want to be in the same room with our oldest child during the immunizations. He didn't even want to see his great-grandmother who raised him when she was in the hospital and he didn't even want to take a blood test b/c he was so damn afraid of the needle when we had to get life insurance.