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and I don't know who your IM's are and if they are your sister or whatever. blah blah blah. I know it'll make no difference at all but.... If he really wants someone to shout at, give him my number and tell him I'm your IM. I would be very surprised if he made an international phone call to rant about the sitch  @ Mr T2L  for goddess T2L Awe my Lildoggie! I should send him to you so you can "ruff ruff" at him. Hee hee hee  
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but sweetie, I am a godess, I don't 'do' ruff. WS's growl and bark and snap. Godess's say "hmm, thats interesting, mmm" while filing their gorgeous finernails and applying the new polish  Lol, actually my nails are ghastly, from milking. Cant wait to have nice hands again.
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A couple songs for you from Superchick's new CD. I'm thinking you know who Superchik is??? Superchick's Crawl Superchick's Breathe And a few of their olds ones you may already have heard. I listened to them during tst's A. Stand in the Rain Beauty from Pain And one from Barlow Girl... Never Alone (Music ministers to me--I'm a dance worshipper 
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Godess's say "hmm, thats interesting, mmm" while filing their gorgeous finernails and applying the new polish Oh man, I've really got to remember this one!! *Inputs "hmm, thats interesting, mmm" into her brain's debate compartment.*
You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
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Godess's say "hmm, thats interesting, mmm" while filing their gorgeous finernails and applying the new polish Oh man, I've really got to remember this one!! *Inputs "hmm, thats interesting, mmm" into her brain's debate compartment.* Okay. How about...'Mmmhunh. That's iteresting. Now shove it sideways." Whatddaya think? Too much of a DJ? Ah. I just can't get past him somehow having to shove it. Sideways. It's a good thing I run stuff by the other IMs and wait for their wisdom, huh?
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Beauty from Pain And one from Barlow Girl... (Music ministers to me--I'm a dance worshiper Yes I know the band. I am balling my head off at this song. Its explains exactly how I feel.
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Its explains exactly how I feel. Yeah... I know...
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Just a thought, but I'd kinda like to see what would happen if there was some consequences to his refusing to communicate with the IMs. Like, missing the only visitation days for the week because of a last-minute change in plans...
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Okay.
How about...'Mmmhunh. That's iteresting. Now shove it sideways." Depends on where.
You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
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Um, I am saying this here instead of on DD's thread so as to not confuse the issue over there... BA?!?!?  Boy I never woulda guessed. And just cus I just noticed these lil dudes... :MerryChristmas: :MerryChristmas: :MerryChristmas: :wavingsanta: :wavingsanta: :wavingsanta:
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Okay.
How about...'Mmmhunh. That's iteresting. Now shove it sideways." Depends on where. Well we can safely say sideways in his ears. Apparently there is no blockages in between both of his W-ears. Nutting but air so yeah side ways will work there.
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Nutting but air so yeah side ways will work there. Nuttin' but a HUGE sucking sound as everything that goes in, gets sucked into a wormhole and spewed into another galaxy. (see that, Char....snarkasam AND the ablity to wrap a ST analogy into the convo!...Texans are GOOD!)
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My wife was never the cause of my poor choices, she was only the scapegoat. That was beautifully put, tst. T2L, print this out or tattoo it on your arm or something and refer back to it whenever you find yourself wondering what you did wrong or why you weren't good enough or ANY of that self-doubtful nonsense.
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Just a thought, but I'd kinda like to see what would happen if there was some consequences to his refusing to communicate with the IMs. Like, missing the only visitation days for the week because of a last-minute change in plans... You know, I've been thinking this too. Thanks for suggesting it, Jayne. I agree. He needs to suffer consequences if he refuses to agree to and adhere to your visitation. That will teach him soon enough that you mean business.
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I agree..
i tell my mama this all the time.
i tell her stop blaming yourself.
this is NOT your fault.
dads just an idiot.
she asks me sometimes?? ya know didnt you think me and your dad were happy and i tell her oh lord yes of course mama..
i remind her of this all the time too.
and ill say it again...
MOM
1. you did his laundry
2.you folded his chonies (underwear and clothes) and put them away.
3. you packed his lunch for him every night(like a little kid going to school)
4. wrote him cute little notes in his lunch box. 
5. made sure the house was spotless everyday he came home.
6. made him a great!!!! dinner every night he came home..
so he was pretty much babied..
he was spolied and my mom didnt deserve this AT ALL...
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I KNOW mom was a good wife.
Be sure let dad know when you have one of his favorites for dinner. You can just mention that you are lazy and STUFFED from the __________.
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My wife was never the cause of my poor choices, she was only the scapegoat. That was beautifully put, tst. T2L, print this out or tattoo it on your arm or something and refer back to it whenever you find yourself wondering what you did wrong or why you weren't good enough or ANY of that self-doubtful nonsense. Well Hello Lil turtle, Welcome back. Hope you had lovely travels over Christmas! I guess tattoo would help me the best. It is hard to not go back and think what could have you done and think what the heck are you doing now. But quiet dark day here. H has not called or contacted the kids all day and it's 9PM here already. We didn't think he would as they rejected his visit yesterday. DS10 was mad that his dad wasn't around for New Years Eve and DD17 is getting tired of scheduling times just to see her dad who she said should be here and she could see all the time. I figured he'd be pissed off at them and not call them. He does it a lot. And yup putting it in the journal. Tomorrow is 7 weeks in Plan B. I feel good that H has not had any communication or responses from me during the entire PB. I will be turning 39 in 2 weeks and 3 days. DD17 wants to plan a big party with all my church friends but I am taking 2 weeks off from church. I have a tendency to drop off the face of the planet when I am feeling hurt or I struggle so I kinda been in hiding. I just need to "work it out" for a few weeks. I am not upset with anyone over the decision, but I have to say my faith, for the 1st time in 15 years, has been questioned. I love God but the great thing is when I let God know how I feel I don't sugar coat it. No point as He can see the heart of man. So I just tell Him, Abba I'm a bit upset right now and I am struggling. I really feel like Jacob who wrestled with God. Anyways, not feeling so social and birthday partyish. DD17 really wants to plan it. Funny don't want to have my own B-day party. I have always loved, loved, loved my B-day in the most girlish way LOL. My H used to think I was a dork(in a nice way) because I would celebrate me the whole day. I know goofey. Off to bed, I'm pooped couldn't sleep last night.....Yes I was thinking to much. Think I might go back over to the magical health food store and try melatonin. I hear its great for helping you sleep. I have heard that If you take too much it can make you groggy. I went over there the other day and bought some of that rescue remedy y'all recommended. G'night y'all
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I have been thinking. Thats what all the smoke was One of the things I have been wondering but wasnt sure about posting is, because you have already done a sort of PB on him, is his current reaction/response because he thinks its just like that and if he waits long enuff you will go back to PA. Thoughts from anyone else???
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I have been thinking. Thats what all the smoke was One of the things I have been wondering but wasnt sure about posting is, because you have already done a sort of PB on him, is his current reaction/response because he thinks its just like that and if he waits long enuff you will go back to PA. Thoughts from anyone else??? I read Love Must be tough and In June gave him the letter it has in book and basically only spoke to him via text about finances which was only maybe 1-2 month. He was living in his car I believe in July and that's when I set up a schedule for him to come to the house 3 times a week and visit the kids but I did not speak with him while he was here and made my self unavailable, so It was kinda a PB but only to 80% as we would text if necessary and I would defend myself from his verbal bashing emails. So kinda a PB if that makes sense. Good point tho maybe he thinks it'll all run back to the PA, hmm. Any thoughts?
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