I have found out that the woman that my husband had an affair with may be in the process of latching onto someone else, another man. She is still married and of course I know this is wrong of her but it would be great to finally not have to worry so much about her trying to potentially try to come back into our lives.
This is what I need advice about. Should I tell my husband what I have learned? Part of me says yes b/c then he too may not feel like he still needs to watch his back so much (she's not dealing with a full deck). Part of me says don't tell him. I have this weird voice saying, what if he has feelings of jealousy. Also I am concerned that he may feel the need to let her husband know what is probably going on. I don't want to have anything to do with either one of them again. Her husband has chosen to stay with her for whatever reason and that is their business.
Also, we are still waiting for her sentencing date (felony)on the 8th of this month. I feel very tied up in knots over this. To not have to worry about her b/c she would not be able to have any access to us would be wonderful. I have a very strong suspicion that she still drives past our house and lurks. I am not sure how I am going to handle it if she walks away from this and only gets probation or nothing at all. Understand I don't want her to go to jail b/c of revenge. I could care less if she went to Tahiti. I just don't want to have to worry about her anymore.

I'll be interested to see what other posters suggest.

On the one hand having your H know the OW is moving on could help him overcome withdrawl from her. ON the other hand he may get jealous and want her back more. Has he agreed to NC?

I'd tell the OWs spouse what you know. He deserves to know. But be prepared for his denial.

My husband and I have really come along way considering all that he put us through. There has been no contact since Nov. And that was only at the request of her husband. She couldn't seem to get it though her head that it was over and apparently her husband was tired of her going on about it. She even started emailing herslef and saying that it was my husband and then told her husband about it to make him mad I guess.
I don't worry about him still having feelings for her but like I said before there is just this little voice in me that says maybe it will make him jealous. Don't know why don't know where it's coming from.
As far as telling her husband, he knows that she is a liar and that she has willingly put alot of people through hell. I am not sure why he is staying with her but I'm not judging I just know I couldn't. My main reason for not wanting to say anything to OWH is b/c I just don't want to have to deal with HER again under any circumstances. Besides, he knew that there was something going on between the two of them long before I did and he didn't come knocking on my door to tell me a thing. I know that sounds really immature but I think he is jsut wanting, as we are, to see what happens after the 8th before he decides what he is going to do.