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Because of the OCs I know what is going on with VD's life.
And I hate it.
She is a miserable waste of beer and other natural resources (giggle), and lucky me gets front row seats to witness it...
Why?
B/c she can't resist having drama in her life even on the weekends she gets visitation.
Just last Sunday the Wookie and I had to pick the kids up at her apartment at 3 am b/c she'd gone out drinking and her ex flavor of the month broke her windows.
The kids were terrified.
And I hate it for them.
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Knowing the OP is living a crappy life would be a start. Knowing the OP is living a crappy life as a result of MY actions is even better. Throw in a malignant tumor or two, and my anger just might subside a little. Now I feel terrible. My dear husband (who was a OM) is living a good life and is very happy. Should I be waiting for the karma bus to knock him down?  Luckily for him, karma doesn't exist. If he was the OM in my situation, I'd want him dead, too. The other BS in your sitch may feel differently.
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Knowing the OP is living a crappy life would be a start. Knowing the OP is living a crappy life as a result of MY actions is even better. Throw in a malignant tumor or two, and my anger just might subside a little. Now I feel terrible. My dear husband (who was a OM) is living a good life and is very happy. Should I be waiting for the karma bus to knock him down? Luckily for him, karma doesn't exist. If he was the OM in my situation, I'd want him dead, too. The other BS in your sitch may feel differently. Ungh. If you HAD to witness it every other weekend for a few years, trust me, you'd get worn out by it. It sucks big donkey buttocks.
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Now I feel terrible. My dear husband (who was a OM) is living a good life and is very happy. Should I be waiting for the karma bus to knock him down? I assume it already did hit him. Twice at least, right? Karma ain't just bad stuff. I assume he had his A, bad things happened. He repented, changed, did good things, then good things happened.
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Now I feel terrible. My dear husband (who was a OM) is living a good life and is very happy. Should I be waiting for the karma bus to knock him down? I assume it already did hit him. Twice at least, right? Karma ain't just bad stuff. I assume he had his A, bad things happened. He repented, changed, did good things, then good things happened. pretty much ....
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Like I said before, I wish permanant oozing rectal fistulas on OM.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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I don't know honestly. I know the OW has a messed up life even before she interfered with mine. She has bi-polar, Flick tells me she is so crazy that even on my bad days I would have light years to go to reach her level of nuttyness. She doesnt have custody or any of her 4 kids, and never will get it. Uses men for money, spends it like its going out of fashion, has endless inappropiate distructive relationships, cant hold down a job, lives a destructive lifestyle...i could go on. But I am still new enought into recovery that went I hear of fatal car crashes in her region i hope its her, if I saw her I might be forced to kick her head in, and I wish her ill. Like I said before, I wish permanant oozing rectal fistulas on OM. That too.
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Hello B-R, I sent that email to OW this morning and copied it to 29 of her colleagues. As you know from my thread, it was a factual, reasonably non-emotional list of all the things she had done to get my WH but it was fairly damning when documented. I have to admit that I pressed the send button and then thought 'yessssss'. I know I have dealt her a killer blow today but as Melody says, it feels like justice to me. If I had the slightest inkling that she felt remorse this wouldn't feel so good.
Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can't practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage.
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Plus there's what I did with the mostly-naked pic of herself she sent to my FWH. LOL I can just imagine. Say cheese!  Yup. Makes me very happy to know she's getting what she deserves, and more. OW and FWH both underestimated the BSs reactions to their A. I don't know why they were so surprised.  Let's just say she got a few phone calls from people across the country.  What galls me is she has the nerve to be mad at me! What did you expect, you stupid ho bag?? And yes, FWH was blown away by the rage I expressed. I'm not proud of that, but he far underestimated what I was capable of. He actually told me I scared him (as far as what consequences would come of my behavior).
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b_s,
Sounds like your OW ended up in much worse shape than mine, but I do admit to feeling deep satisfaction when I saw her shortly after my H ended the A. She looked awful. Face full of pain and strain. Much like I looked in the early weeks after I discovered she was brazenly trying to steal my H, and looking quite triumphant about it.
Realized too that she was probably getting triggerd by seeing cars that looked like his, driving past places they had gone together...the whole nine yards.
That's the moment I realized SHE didn't get off scott free.
Difference between her and me was that SHE deserved every bit of it.
RHW LOL she was a mess to begin with. We're the same age, but I look far better than she. I'm not conceited either, I mean really...they say that when you live a hard life it shows on your face. She got hit by one seriously big ugly stick. Plus with people like her, karma just bites them over and over again because they continue making poor choices. I know relishing in another's pain isn't "nice", but screw being nice. Nice went out the window when she decided to be an interloper in my marriage. When you mess with the bull, you get the horns, and I was one pissed off bull.
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[quote=broken_soul Nice went out the window when she decided to be an interloper in my marriage. [/quote]
Ya got THAT right. I haven't had one single "nice" thought about her, and I don't intend to start now.
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Like I said before, I wish permanant oozing rectal fistulas on OM. Leave it to me to pick this out and ask such a dumb question, so sorry to bother you all. D: What is a fistula? XD
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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Like I said before, I wish permanant oozing rectal fistulas on OM. Leave it to me to pick this out and ask such a dumb question, so sorry to bother you all. D: What is a fistula? XD
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We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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A fistula is an abnormal tunnel connecting two body cavities (such as the rectum and the vagina) or a body cavity to the skin (like the rectum to the outside of the body).
WAYWARD is a diagnosis when someone has a fistula from the rectum to the mouth.
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6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
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Wow, thanks for the information, raven...and Chai. Curious little me...
A fistula from that distance? Wow. That defies the laws of physics. But then again WSs defy a lot of things.:P
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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I'm sure with all the heat I rained down on them, the OM's domineering and furious W is making his life a living he!! on a daily basis, and he'll never hear the end of it.
I take some satisfaction in that on one level, but at some point you have to walk in your front door and deal with your own family.
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A fistula from that distance? Wow. That defies the laws of physics. But then again WSs defy a lot of things.:P Yes Karma, how do you think they continually spew cr@p??? Waywards defy many laws of nature....
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12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
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I want OW to pay so much for breaking up my family. Especially hard is the knowledge that she took my WH's wedding ring and flushed it. I cry everytime I think of it. And that ring had been blessed. I hope she get's it big time. And when she does (not if because I know it's coming), I'll be posting.
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Yes Karma, how do you think they continually spew cr@p??? Its called verbal diarreha
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I want OW to pay so much for breaking up my family. Holy, we are people of G-d. We seek his will in our life and ask him to give us the strength to get through this. OW paying so much for breaking up your family won't make you feel better. I'll give you it could help, but seriously, it won't help. Having WH come home and your family healing is what will make it better and it's because that's G-ds desire too. I used to be a angry bitter person and WH left. I'm not angry or bitter, I'm sad, lost perhaps... but I am a woman of G-d and for that I am so grateful that I wouldn't ever want to speak to OW or even give her any acknowledgement, her judgement day is between G-d and her. NOT ME...
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