Well yesterday was the second seesion with the new counsellor, and it was with me only.
After 3.5 hours with the counsellor, she seems to be very suspicious of childhood trauma/abuse in my wifes early years.
She said that her inabilty to show feelings such as love, empathy, etc.. and the fact that when she does express her feelings they are in the form of anger, is classic of a "survivior" of child abuse (sexual, emotional, physical, not sure)
The counsellor was asking me qustions about my wife as if she had been a fly on the wall over the last few years. She was asking me if she does certain things, reacts certain ways etc... and all my answers were "yes".
I have no idea if/what happened in her childhood, but the counsellor feels something happened.
she also feels that the whole thing with the other man (emails), gambling, selfishness etc... and the way she treats me, is literally because she doesnt know/understand how to love or act as a married women. she might not understand how what she does and says effects others.
her gambling continues.
next appointment is on the 24th and will be my wife only.
Counsellor intends to try and open her up, but did warn me that the seesion could be 2 hours, or it could be 15 minutes.
She also said that she may need to be very blunt with her, and went on to say that she may need to tell her that she is in risk of losing her husband and children if she chooses to refuse to work on all of this.
counsellor, as all of you, stopped in the middle of the seesion and said that IF this ends up in seperation, I HAVE to take the children.
I told her I knew that.
so I am crossing my fingers, hoping and preying that it goes well on the 24th.
also,
wife got a new credit card again,
i found out (seen it in her wallet when she was looking for soemthing) , called ehr on it and cut it in half.
