The best revenge is living well!
Or, he could just be buying a lot of stuff and telling people about it in order to feel better about himself.
I haven't been on in a while because I got into an A myself and know how people on this forum blast you for Revenge A's. I was just thinking about it early on, mentioning it here, and getting ripped. It made most of the thoughts/images go away due to the intensity of the A. I will say that, but I probably fell out of love w/ my wife. Not the best tradeoff, but it quickened the healing processs.
I've been in an active Revenge A for almost three weeks. My WW knows about it, and has said to end it, and she said we'll just deal w/ it then move on. I know I spoke to her and on here about my temptations. Then, I did get involved w/ a OW while my wife was out of town to let me deal w/ her A. She was gone for three and a half weeks. She is very sad for what I did and feels like she caused it w/ her A. I will say it did take my mind off her A, and moved me into a weird situation as the OW is a high caliber person just like my wife and I. She wants me to be w/ her and not w/ my wife. Its not like a one night stand. We actually have a relationship already. I know people think a BS is vulernable and lacks judgement, but I think this is more than that unfortunately. Has anyone else out there gone through the Revenge A that actually turns out to be more? Its crazy and gets more complicated by the day. It sure has taken all those images away, but cause more pain for my wife.
Living
well? I don't think so.
Just so you know, dude, I'm seeing a pattern here, and I wonder if you are too.
