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But godliness with contentment is great gain. 1 Timothy 6:6
Whether you know it or not, your marriage is susceptible to the American Dream Syndrome--the notion that you can have it all, that you deserve it all. The more stuff you have, the better off you are. Desire to acquire. The slogans, like the wish lists, are practically endless.
Yet contrary to the seductive tune of the American Dream, enough is never enough. Getting more only fuels the urge to get more. So how do you learn to live within that truth without constantly feeling like your lives don't measure up?
You embrace contentment.
Contentment arises from a spirit of gratefulness. It's the courageous choice to thank God for what you have and for what you don't have. Even when you don't know where this week's grocery money is coming from. Even when the washer goes on the blink. Even when the kids need braces. Even when your next-door neighbor drives home in a new car or is gone on a fabulous vacation to an exotic location.
The apostle Paul, who wrote the words that appear at the top of this page, knew how it felt to be beaten, shipwrecked and imprisoned. He knew the hardship of being pummeled with rocks and left for dead. But he also knew that God could be trusted. He knew his situation was being monitored by the all-wise awareness of his loving heavenly Father.
Occasionally, we all need to be reminded: Material things will never satisfy the hunger in our hearts. A couple who fails to see this could spend a lifetime chasing the American Dream, only to find it to be a desert mirage, forever just out of reach.
Discuss What are three things you wish you owned? What are three circumstances you wish were different?
Pray Bring your needs and shortages before the Lord right now. Leave them there, thank Him for where He has you, and walk on embracing contentment. FamilyLife
Happily recovered!and Happily Married :0)
Commit your works to the LORD and your plans will be established. Proverbs 16:3
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My personal interpretation of this commentary is that too much choice, as created by capitalism, is the root of much discontent in our lives. There is always something better, bigger, brighter just around the corner, made in China and just a little more than your next paycheck.
The other day spouse suggested we buy a newer car as we had run into another car repair bill that dented our checking account. I just replied they are all machines and all machines break sooner or later and they are always coming out with new sleeker, sexier, cooler models for us to lust after.
Regarding modern day commitment levels in marriage: There are always younger sexier people out there than our spouse so often the grass is greener attitude perverts our moral compasses. (Mine too so I am not here preaching.) The internet is a communication tool and has made it instantaneous so now if you FEEL unhappy at home you can find 20 possible contacts within 60 minutes. When my best friend got divorced and hooked up with a hot 20 something chick was I jealous of course! But what would my 3 children learn?? Whenever you "FEEL" something well than thats what you should do or base your actions on. Your "feelings"! We must learn to stop acting on feelings but rather morals, laws, principles, ethics etc.
God's goal for marriage: Become ONE! How? MBer methods. Me:husband 42 wife, 40 married 1/12/1991 3 children, 1 granddaughter
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So true...with enough contentment to go around, none of us would be here. Gratitude needs to be central to our thoughts, not greed. 
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner. ~ English proverb Neak's Story
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