Originally Posted by iam
OH, something else...

Nearly always you WW's stand to lose nothing for dropping your drawers. However, your husbands will lose their children because you couldn't keep them on.

Spend a little time reading the 'just found out' husbands posts. Nearly evey one says 'I don't want to lose my children'.

Any (F)WW who claims remorse and wants to 'prove' it should tell their spouse....

"BS, I love you so much and am so sorry for betraying your love that I will offer you an uncontested divorce and custody because this was 100% MY FAULT. I will NOT try to keep you in this marriage by using your fear of losing the children as bait. I MESSED up. If we split, you should not suffer for MY FAULTS".

This is just one post from a thread where I have discussed the WW offering custody to the BH as 'proof' of her desire to reconcile.

I myself was offered this and it made a difference to me.

I am curious to find out from PRESENTLY recovering BH's and those still working towards R if this would be something that would be helpful to them?