So..here's the deal. My husband and I have been together for a total of 5 years. We started dating in Jan of 04..in the first few months some things were done and said on his part that for whatever reason I stuck around knowing because I could see he had a good heart and was trying. (This involves binge drinking on occasion, porn, etc....I know I know...RED FLAG). From what I saw he had great parents and upbringing..he had a good job, went to the same church as I, etc. He did have a son that was 2 when we met from a girl that he met in college that was sort of an 'oops' thing. They went out a few times, he moved, they never spoke, she called him because she was pregnant...he moved back to try and make thigns work with her---they were complete opposites and it did not work, etc. Anyway.

We moved in together the fall of 2004 (only 8 months after us being together...) and 7 months later I got pregnant. Up until this time things were going fairly well between us --he was seeing a church counselor to help with some of the things he was struggling with etc. We had our ups and downs like any couple would. The big question was that since I was pregnant--what do we do? His parents pushed and pushed for us to get married since he had one child our of wedlock already and as Christians--we thought it was the right thing to do. I was not comfortable being pressured into it and was extremely confused but went ahead and did it anyway. We had a small ceremony when I was 4 months pregnant with the intentions of having a large wedding a year later. This is when things started getting crazy.... The mom of his child--although married and with another child--started causing all sorts of problems. My husbands mother --who happens to be just like my husband's sons' mom (I can't really say 'ex' because they never really dated)-- started causing problems so much that it started to affect my husband and I's relationship. There are so many to list but to give you an idea--she basically questioned whether our daughter was my husbands the day I brought her home because she was born with dark hair and my husband is blonde (who by the way..my daughter is now blonde at 3), she made a big scene at our wedding (the big wedding in 2006), she celebrated her own and her friends' own birthday with cake and everything at our rehearsal dinner which they hosted for us but themed around her and her friends birthdays (which weren't on that day but rather the month of July), she has written several off-the-wall emails and letters to all of us regarding our parenting skills, etiquette, etc--I could go on. She has cut off all of her ties with her own family members over the year. Bottom line: she seriously has a screw loose. Even my father in law thinks so and lives seperate from her "for his job" and has done so for 4 years. He even told us that if he did not live away from her he would go insane....

All of these things my husband does and says nothing. On top of all of this my husband has been lying about money and his whereabouts on his business trips. He is obsessed with sex and does innappropriate things at times that make me feel uncomfortable (ie when I am in the kitchen and our toddler is there). I am a very affectionate person and enjoy sex very much but given all of what has gone on (which, again, I haven;t even began to tell you the craziness) I am emotionally drained and almost repulsed to be by him. When I try to talk to him about it he acts like a 17 year old kid--repeating what I say, making rude comments, etc. I just give up. Now, I am 7 months pregnant and truly feel that this marriage will never change and want out. We have tried counseling but he spends most of the time misrepresenting himself, talking about his relationship with his mother or ex as it is in relation to HIM, and it ends up being a personal therapy session for him verses us. It isn't my hormones that are doing the talking here...I felt this way a year ago... Things have just got progressively worse and now I am thinking about my children and what kind of enviroment I am bringing them up in. I believe that the parents should be a team and be able to show affection and support eachother...that is not what they will be seeing at our house these days. What do we do?