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Joined: Jan 2009
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I have exposed WS in every way possible about his affair. His family and I are now working on exposing the OW (which is his step sister and which is why his family is involved) The only concern that I have is that when WS's Mom told OW that she has sent a letter in the mail to tell her employer (she is on a church staff) about her affair with her step brother, my WS called his mom and told her that what she did will not change things with him and OW and that it is only pushing him toward her more. ARGH!!! Is this a normal reaction??? Is he maybe just bluffing so we will leave her alone, or do you think it is possible that it is really bringing them closer???
me-30 WH-29
Married 8 years, together 13
D-Day- November 10, 2008
DS-10, DD-8, DD-7 & DS-10 months
status-seperated, WH not living at home
WH admits to A, continues to see OW (which is step sister), wants out of marriage but has not filed
A is exposed to EVERYONE!!!
currently in Plan A as of Jan. 16, 2009
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No, it's all fog babble. Rule #1 (and tell his mom): NEVER listen to a SINGLE word he says until he says he is ready to go No Contact; and even after that, be suspicious. He is NOT your real husband, he is an alien, an addict. Tell his mom not to listen to his drivel.
Who else are you exposing to?
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, my WS called his mom and told her that what she did will not change things with him and OW and that it is only pushing him toward her more. He is trying to blackmail you into silence because he knows it will ruin his affair. He is saying he will punish you by running to the OW if you do. Do you think he would care if he thought for 2 seconds that it wouldn't destroy his affair? Exposure ruins the fantasy of the affair. Expose EVERYWHERE, w2r! It is like chemotherapy to cancer.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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BW(me)
DDay EA 4/05
DDay PA 6/05
In recovery
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The only mistake I see is this: The only concern that I have is that when WS's Mom told OW that she has sent a letter in the mail to tell her employer ... Never warn a WS about impending exposure. It would have been better if her employer sprung it on her unexpectedly. Now she has time to think up excuses and justifications, not to mention make you look like a raving lunatic. Fortunately for you, you have WH's family and others on your side so he won't get far with this. But she will still go to work prepared to deal with it and so the overall effect will be diminished somewhat. Remember, the angrier he is, the greater the wound to the affair.
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