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Please share your experiences!
What are the typical signs that would indicate to me that Total Separation has truly occurring and that no contact has been made in any form?
It's impossible for me to monitor emails, SMSs, IM, phone, voicemail, etc.
Me: 42
WW: 41
Married: 16 years
Known each other: 21 years
S12 D10.5
A Started: Nov 8, 2008
First Discovery: Dec 26th ("Just a Friend" excuse)
Big D-day: Jan 10th (Recorded evidence of full-blown A)
WW Moved out: Feb 1st, 2009.
Plan B started: Feb 13th, 2009.
D Papers served on me by WW: Feb 17th, 2009.
Plan B currently blown, A continues!
WW moved back into home: Feb 23rd, 2009.
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The best way to know is to VERIFY it independently via snooping!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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It is a good question.
When we were in counseling after D-day, Jennifer told me "we will know if WW is gaming us when she stops trying to meet your ENs."
She stopped, quit MB, and I discovered renewed contact.
YMMV
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Thanks a lot! That's a great answer.
I'll be monitoring my EN-Satisfaction-Index (ENSI) as measure of WW infidelity index (WWII).
Me: 42
WW: 41
Married: 16 years
Known each other: 21 years
S12 D10.5
A Started: Nov 8, 2008
First Discovery: Dec 26th ("Just a Friend" excuse)
Big D-day: Jan 10th (Recorded evidence of full-blown A)
WW Moved out: Feb 1st, 2009.
Plan B started: Feb 13th, 2009.
D Papers served on me by WW: Feb 17th, 2009.
Plan B currently blown, A continues!
WW moved back into home: Feb 23rd, 2009.
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Thanks a lot! That's a great answer.
I'll be monitoring my EN-Satisfaction-Index (ENSI) as measure of WW infidelity index (WWII). lol...well, just factor in there is the rollercoaster effect and don't draw snap decisions from a few days data..
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