Update Exh left 3 1/2 yrs ago, divorced 1 year been in plan B since March 06 has been a very dark plan even though we have 3 children. Exh does not contact me at all about the kids other than organise his time with D6 who he sees every other weekend. D18 is also doing a plan B on Exh she has not spoken to him since July 06 he did a lot of damage to her and she has decided that she does not want him in her life. at no stage in the last years had Exh tried to have contact with the D18 he just says on her xmas card "i"m sad we dont have a relationship but I respect your wishes in not wanting contact" The list goes on basically he has swapped our family for another. I received an email from him saying

"On another matter, I hear D18 is moving to Australia for good. Can you please at least let me know what is happening with our children as I would consider this important, even if it is from an information point of view. I don’t think its fair for D6 to be a messenger. Would you confirm please"

In the beginning I used to tell him what the children were doing but everytime I said they need this or that because of what he had done he would attack me and I got sick of it so went to plan B. Now he is using D6 as a messenger because he never emails me as to what his children are doing.

Some friends say ignore the email he knows where they live and their ph no he is the adult he can ring and some say reply back that over the last 3 years not once have you inquired as to what the children are doing and that I am not his PA also it is his relationship with D18 she is an adult and to take it up with her.

So how should this be handled advise needed thanks.

I would just throw his email away. If your D18 wants to talk to him that is her choice. it is not up to you to fill him in on the family he abandoned.