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just had to ask -NC and recovery question. #2196074 01/19/09 05:50 PM
Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 23 B butterfly333 Junior Member
butterfly333 Junior Member B Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 23	I've gotten a lot of bashing because we still live across from OW, although I'm trying hard to get my H to see that I need to move. Anyway, from what I've heard on MB you can't recovery without moving. question then, are you also saying the OW isn't recovering either??? To me it looks like they are so I'm just wondering if it's me or is it possible to recover in our living situation. They renewed there wedding vows and she just had baby #4 this is baby #2 since A ended 2 yrs 8 mo ago. Just courious??? My H's A lasted 7 mo with still neighbor and was friend (so called).

Re: just had to ask -NC and recovery question. butterfly333 #2196075 01/19/09 05:52 PM
Joined: May 2004 Posts: 2,621 A Aphelion Member
Aphelion Member A Joined: May 2004 Posts: 2,621	Who's baby? "Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan "An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky WS: They are who they are. When an eel lunges out And it bites off your snout Thats a moray ~DS

Re: just had to ask -NC and recovery question. butterfly333 #2196083 01/19/09 06:32 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Originally Posted by butterfly333 I've gotten a lot of bashing because we still live across from OW, although I'm trying hard to get my H to see that I need to move. Telling you that you can't get to San Diego by traveling EAST is not "bashing," butterfly. You say that you want to recover your marriage so we are telling you how to get there. That is not "bashing." "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: just had to ask -NC and recovery question. MelodyLane #2196095 01/19/09 07:02 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Person A: I want to go to San Diego, directions please! Person B: you go 800 miles WEST on Hwy 66, turn left at the Pacific Ocean A: but I can't go west!! It is too hard, I don't have enough money to go that far! B: ok, but if you want to get to San Diego, you have to go 800 miles WEST a while later....... A: I don't understand why I'm not getting to San Diego!! B: Ma'am, you are on the WRONG ROAD headed in the wrong direction A: you are so mean!! Why can't you be supportive!?? "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: just had to ask -NC and recovery question. MelodyLane #2196118 01/19/09 07:51 PM
Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 23 B butterfly333 Junior Member
butterfly333 Junior Member B Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 23	I'm asking the question in general. This is the general forum, isn't it?? I'm not just referring to my situation. I've heard it on several other web sites as well, that you can't recover when you live this close to the OP. So are you all saying neither party can recover??? By the way her babies are with her H. My H's A lasted 7 mo with still neighbor and was friend (so called).

Re: just had to ask -NC and recovery question. butterfly333 #2196123 01/19/09 08:03 PM
Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 6,058 M Mark1952 Member
Mark1952 Member M Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 6,058	Do you FEEL like you are recovered or even recovering? Mark

Re: just had to ask -NC and recovery question. Mark1952 #2196126 01/19/09 08:17 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Here are her other threads, Mark: here and here "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: just had to ask -NC and recovery question. MelodyLane #2199218 01/24/09 06:57 PM
Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 23 B butterfly333 Junior Member
butterfly333 Junior Member B Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 23	Mark1952- I know I'm struggling, I have many ups and downs but the question I was asking was just asking in general. I was just courious because like I said, I read on many sites that you can't recover when you constantly have reminders of the OP. So just a thought I had, can either party recover when they live this close or even work with the OP??? This wasn't a question about me specifically. My H's A lasted 7 mo with still neighbor and was friend (so called).

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