Just wondering if anybody else had gone through this. My WW had a few setbacks in the beginning but I'm pretty sure she has maintained NC for the past couple of months and is making a genuine effort in recovery yet I still want to talk about the A all the time. And its not me yelling about it or me wanting to make her feel bad - the best way to explain it is almost an unnatural curiosity. It just so hard to accept that I lived the past year oblivious to the fact my WW fell in love with someone else and I just have so many questions about everything - from the littlest detail like what dinners did they goto to the big questions like why didn't you just leave me if the OP was so good. I'm hoping this goes away but so far hasn't. In her defense she has been pretty forthcoming (even intitiaing sometimes talking about it) but she says she would perfer to talk about the present and more postivie things about us. And this makes perfect sense to me logically but I just can't help thinking about and talking about the A a lot of the time. I'm hoping time will make this go away (and it has got a little bit better recently - but not enough where in addition to my WW being frustrated I'm starting to feel that way too).

The BH and only the BH knows and gets to decide what questions he needs answered.

It appears that things are evolving well for you and you WW.

It would help to limit the amount you talk about the affair.

How often do you talk about the affair?

I would suggest that you only talk and ask questions about the affair on Tuesday and Thursday evenings for one hour. This way with the time limit the whole evening is not spent on the past.
Then the weekends are left to reconnecting and making new memories.

All perfectly normal for 3 months of NC. Expect it to last another 3 months. (at least)