Everyone pray for Chai. Prayer helps in all situations.

Prayers going up. Love to you Chai

Still praying, and hoping things are okay..............

Love and prayers to you, Chai.

Hey all,

Thank you all so much. Will give you a shortened version of the last 24 hours.

DD got out of detox and before I could get her to the rehab she went "hospital shopping" and ended up with 5 prescriptions for a bunch of crap. Of course she knew that the second rehab would kick her out which is what the goal was.

Tonight, in the 3rd hospital emergency room in 24 hours, I had to call in security. They called CPS, I was told to take grandchai and separate from DD. She was OOC (out of control) and of course the verbal abuse started. Of course she was on the phone with dipstick WH who is claiming that I'm trying to take her baby from her, and that doing so was my goal all along. No, I do not want to raise another child, but she is not capable of caring for him. I let her stay with me last night and she was passed out at midnight. Chaibaby screamed and she slept right through it. I screamed at her and no response whatsoever. She absolutely cannot take care of this baby. Period. Let WH get his crackpot atty after me if he wants.

So, I left the hospital and gave her money for a taxi. She has called me several times and I just say "call your dad." He doesn't have a clue what is going on. Let him deal with it for a while.

I don't know what she will do. I imagine she will go back with the old guy. She just isn't ready to get off that crap. I had hoped the baby would change things but looks like it isn't going to happen that way. Very sad.

Anyway, it hasn't been a good day at all.

And Cinder, you are right. We all want the M that we THOUGHT we had. And SD, no, I don't really want him back. Bugs was right, the trigger is probably normal, but the dip was a kiddie roller coaster dip. Not THE BEAST dips like they used to be. Thanks for pointing that out Bugs.

Gotta go for the midnight feeding.

I love you CHAI... :hug

Be good to yourself....

Hang in there, Chai. You're doing the hero thing, and it's not an easy road to walk, but you're doing it with grace.

Chai

"Gotta go for the midnight feeding."

Does this mean I have to wake up at midnight to chat with you?

You did fine. DD has to be away from you and away from the baby. No other way around it.

Check your classic mail....I forwarded an envelope to you for an anonymous MBer.

Grandchai -
Chai - from all this 'stuff'
All us MBers who love Chai -

Chai, I am so sorry to hear that DD chosen drugs over DGS. Addiction is such an emotional roller coaster. My XH is an alcoholic and the reason I finally left my mariage is because he wouldn't get help. I couldn't take the morning after "I'm sorry, I'll never do it again." Or getting awakened in the middle of the night because he was passed out and wet the bed. I couldn't even leave the house without coing home and finding him drunk. I found bottles hidden in the most interesting places. Addiction is so hard on the family too. My DS17 has had a rough time dealing with his dad over the years. About 8 months ago DS was staying with his dad over the weekend ( we do the every other weekend thing) and he was in the basement. He heard a thump on the floor and came upstairs to find his dad had fallen down and hit his head on the brick hearth. DS17 called me and asked what to do. He called 911 and when the paramedics came the police had to be called and he was taken out in handcuffs because he fought the police. Chris and I went to get DS17 and take him to my house. DS17 and I went to the ER to make sure he was ok. He barely spoke to DS17 and he pretty much cursed me out for being there. DS17 still has a problem going to his dad's for the weekend. My point in sharing this with you is that because of the addiction DGS is better off with you or as I suggested an adoptive family who will give him the love and respect that he deserves. You are an incredible woman Chai, and DGS is so lucky to have you. So is DD only she just doesn't realize it. My prayer for you is that someday she will truly get the help she needs and so that you can find peace in knowing you did everything you could and loved her in spite of everything.
And on another note, don't believe Chris. He is very cute and I know that I am a very lucky woman!!

This is very confusing. I thought you were DGS. . . .

dgs was referring to Grandchai as DGS - Dear Grand Son

Hi CL,


This is a good sign, CL.

Sorry to hear about your DD.

You're the best for being there for DGS!

...and remember to take good care of grandmaCHAI....for both your sakes!

CL

Hey all,

Checking in to say thank you so much for all of the wonderful baby items that many of you have sent. It has been such a big help to me.

I'm too dang tired to post about the weekend, so will try to tomorrow.

I'm over the photo of WH and OP. The mullet and 1/2 inch bangs were just a little too much for me to keep thinking about. You might be a red neck if...... (it was censored as all one word)

Funny, someone once told me that WH looked a lot like Jeff Foxworthy.

DD went hospital shopping again over the last few days. It's become a full time job. Yesterday, she spent over 10 hours between two different hospitals. Seems to me it would be easier to focus your energy on an 8 hour a day job where you got paid a nice salary and could go home at night to relax. Oh, in the minds of addicts......

So, tomorrow she is scheduled to try to get into another detox program, then go back to long term rehab. Had a long talk with her PO Friday morning and we decided it's wasted energy. He wants to violate her and let the judge throw her butt in jail.

Not sure what it will take. In the meantime, I'm on a three hour feeding schedule.

Did I mention that I'm far too old for this?

Chai, I really don't want to discourage you. Because you're doing so well! Just rest easy knowing that Grandchai (has a nice ring to it!) is being well-cared for in your capable hands.

Do your best by Grandchai. He needs you more than he knows.

I hope the Super Bowl festivities were magnificent. I was surprised when your daughter identified herself on the phone. It was good to talk to L.

I think about what you are going through. And, how Grandchai deserves a better mother. Then I think about my friends whose adopted daughter is one of the luckiest children in the world. How they went through so much to have a baby....lost one when a biomom backed out after the birth....and how lucky they were to be blessed with their daughter. I wish I could wave my magic wand and make such a blessing happen for Grandchai.

I hope you get a kick out of this!
THE PUPPINI SISTERS

Hi CL,

Just catching up on everybody.

Saw no updates from you.

Bumping up your thread. I know you must be very busy, but when you can, I am sure I am not the only one who would appreciate an update and know how you are doing.

Thinking of you and bambinoChai.

Update when you can, Chai

Hey, Chai. Lots of folks thinking about you and Baby Chai. Hope the drama has subsided and that you're catching up on your sleep...