Hello,

I have been lurking on this forum for about 2 weeks. Discovered affair over 5 months ago on his computer. He has been having an affair for 3 years with a Married woman. We are not married but living together for 8 years. I also found cards and pictures of their times together.

About 4 months ago I had read an e-mail from OW stating she would leave her husband as soon as my boyfriend told her he was ready to move in with her. She would then look for an apartment. I told him to leave and kicked him out of the house a couple of times, but he always comes back . He says he is afraid to commit and move in with the OW because he may be making a huge mistake and there will be no going back after she leaves her husband for him.

We have not had any sexual contact since the discovery of the affair. He has tried numerous times to get intimate, but I just can't. We are in business together and with the bad economy and living in an expensive state, it is difficult for me to move financially. So I stay.

I do love him dearly and before this he had been the perfect man. He has cried a lot. We both have and he wishes he could erase the other woman from his mind.

He is very confused at what he wants to do. So am I. I would love to get some feedback from anyone who has used cellphone spyware. I am very bad at anything like that and would like to know how difficult it is to install and how good they work.

I really need to know what is going on with him and OW. If he does not end it, perhaps the reality of hearing their phone conversations and reading text will allow me to finally know the full truth to end it myself.

Thank you

I too am interested in the ability to monotor convorsations and texts from a bluetooth enabled phone with a bluetooth enabled laptop.

Has anyone here used cell spyware?

Not married & no children = kick him to the curb. It's as simple as that. You can do better.

I'm crying as I write this, but what you wrote really hit me. It's true. He needed to go. I told him to leave tonight and will be calling other woman's husband soon. I do deserve better.THANK YOU!!!!!

matty, that is the smartest thing you can do. Your bf is not marriage material so there is no future with him. He has no respect for you and no respect for marriage.

spy ware, there is plenty,

GPS to attach to cars where you can monitor through your PC. Costs around $250 to $325.

key logger for the PCs. Shows password and every keyword stroke on the Pc to check activity.

Blue tooth phone to listen in on cell phone conversations. You will need access to the phone you want to listen into and the phone that you will use as the companion. If I am not mistaken there is an instruction on You Tube on how to install. Should not take more than 1/2 hour. Can listen into all conversations and even see what the texts are saying.

Just google blue tooth spyware, pc spyware, etc. good luck

I am very interested in monitoring my wife's blackberry.

Will this software only work when WW is in the house? Or will it work when she is away at her job?

Will it store texts and voice? Tell me more...please!

Thank you for all the advice. Though I feel sick to the pit of my stomach this morning I do realize I'm doing the right thing. I haven't slept in months and force myself to eat in order not to lose any weight. This is really ruining my health and I know the sooner I make a clean break from this the faster I will heal.

As for Spyware working on Blackberry I think this one may,.http://www.squidoo.com/flexispy

Again, thank you all. Question. Are there any get togethers or support groups here where people meet to talk over coffee or something? I would love to have someone to talk to through this hard time. Perhaps someone going through the same thing. Just to get out of the house I live in Los Angeles.

Matty,

Sometimes people from here get together. It doesn't happen a lot but it does happen. What might help is just posting and reading.

You can learn A LOT about M and what tools you will need to have a wonderful M in the future. Many here wish they had known all these things because as you know the pain from a betrayal is terrible. So read here and learn and then take it with you. Good luck and go have some fun.