Hang in there Chai. Not easy taking care of a little one, no matter what people think. Hope you take good care of you too.

CL,


Please remember to take care of you.

Hi Chai. You don't know me but I have read your thread and I just had to write to you. I am Chrisner's DGS and he told me about you. I am 53, divorced with a DS17 who has been giving me a run for my money for the past 2 years. My divorce was not infedility it was alcoholism. We have been divorced for 3 years this month. My son is adopted, we got him when he was 2 days old. He was the best thing that came out of our marriage. I can not even claim to have the severe types of problems that you have had with DD but parenting in this day and age is tough nonetheless.

I admire you so much for taking your DGS! I think in the long run you will be glad you did. Maybe like the others said, this will be the thing to make DD see that life is worth living and she will have to think of someone else besides herself. I tell you about my adopted son because that is another option for DGS if things don't work out with DD. There are so many loving, caring couples out there that can't have children and DGS would be a blessing beyond belief for them. The committment that adoptive couples have to make is so intense that I have often said that, if every parent had to go through what adoptive parents have to go through there would be no unwanted children in the world. So I have gotten very wordy here but I just wanted to let you know that here is one more person out here praying for you and your family.

God Bless you, DD, and DGS!! I am a SPED teacher and must go teach!! Until later....

God bless you, Chai. Your strength continues to amaze me. I'm glad that you have some help, though. I'd offer to take a turn if I was closer.

Thanks for the update.

And hi, DGS! (*waves*)

Well, I can now understand what you go through SD. Single parenting is not easy at all.

The other GPs gave me a swing and I think it just saved my sanity. After an entire day of screaming he is now sleeping soundly. The swing plays classical piano music, so it's a nice touch for me too. I tried to cook and eat dinner tonight for at least 4 hours before I finally got it. I think he had gas. The other GM told me to go get Baby GasX, but he was so worked up I couldn't even think of putting him in the car because he hates the car (Cinder can verify that). Everytime I put him in the car he screams nonstop.

That's the tough part about being alone. I can't have anyone watch him while I run down to the store. Or better, have someone else go while I stay and calm him.

I didn't cover the winkie like you guys told me, and got soaked today. I've never had experience with a baby boy, so I figured how far could it go? I thought it would come out like one of those old broken drinking fountains in the school play yard. Well, it was more like a runaway fire hose. We were getting ready to leave for the shop and I had him all dressed in the cutest little outfit. That little mishap gave me yet another load of laundry including my blouse. I'll cover the winkie from now on. Someone today told me they make winkie cups?? Who knew?

I'm so tired.

DD called crying saying she misses him. Good sign.

CPS said that they will not recognize BF as the father because they aren't M and there has been no paternity test, yet either BFs mother or his father call me EVERY day (sometimes both call me) to see how he is. Guess what? WH has made no attempt whatsover to see how he is. Everytime I think he has hit rock bottom, he finds a bigger drill.


DGS, nice to meet you. Thanks for stopping by my thread. You are one lucky woman. I get the feeling that Chrisner is quite a catch. If he's as cute as he is funny, well, what else can I say?

Thanks to everyone for your support.

Chai, Chai, Chai.....Rodney Dangerfield was funny....Marty Feldman was funny too.....but they were not pretty.

DD21 had colic for her first 6-weeks. Bad times. Try running the vacuum while lightly bouncing him in your arm. It bought us a few minutes of peace now and then way back when.

Chai, you are an amazing woman. Like SD, if I could stand in for a couple hours now and then I would. Hang on. You are a very special woman.

Both our adopted children (now adults) were drug babies.
They are irritable for a few months. It's not gas.

Try a snuggly baby sling to keep him next to your body - which is calming (for him, not you ! LOL)

You can look for used baby items locally on craigslist .

Yeah, you need a Baby Bjorn if you don't have one. Wish I'd been thinking.

My mom gave me a couple of knitted caps for him. Today is her 84th birthday. How many 84 year olds can knit baby caps?

Chai

wish I lived close I could come give you a break every now & then... but I live on the other side of the world almost.

I'll keep you and DD and GS in my prayers though.

make sure you get rest and lots of it... even power naps are so helpful.

please take care .....

p.s. .... powdered formula is excellent ... I used Nestle Lactogen "from birth" formula and it was fantastic ... little guy loved it. no tummy troubles either.


AW

Hi all,

Just checking in to say hi and another thank you for all of the wonderful items that you have sent. I just hope that I can pay if forward or backward someday. I love you all.

I'm settling in with grandchai. We now seem to have a schedule that works pretty well considering that I added another 24 hours to my day. I have some pics to post, but lost the cable to upload from the camera. Will work on it.

DD goes to long term rehab tomorrow. If she does well, they will let him go along provided she can care for him properly. I'll post more on my thread (if I can find it) but she had some interesting info on WH and OP. Oh, and I saw a pic of OP. Can you say "mullet?"

My package is in the mail....Priority Mail....should be there in about 2-3 days. It's all stuff he will need whether he is with DD or you.

My mom wants to knit him a sweater. I'm going to copy my sweater pattern for her and get her some yarn. I don't know that she will ever get it finished but I'm gonna let her go for it!

Chai, I REALLY REALLY REALLY want your daughter to do well, get her life together, turn herself around, and do well. I pray for all three of you daily.

We went from a classy woman like you to a bar b!tch with a mullet? What was he? Stoopit?