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Heard this driving home a few minutes ago. Seems it means more today than when it was released in 1999...

Blame It On Your Heart

Lyrics follow...

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You've got a thing or two to learn about me baby
'cause i ain't taking it no more and i don't mean maybe
You'll don't know right from wrong
Well the love we had is gone
So blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating,
Two-timing, double dealing
Mean mistreating, loving heart

Well all i wanted was to be your one and only
And all i ever got from you was being lonely
Now that dream is laid to rest
'cause you have failed the test
Hey blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating,
Two-timing, double dealing
Mean mistreating, loving heart

Are you headed for a heartache, oh yeah
Gonna get a bad break, oh yeah
You made a bad mistake, oh yeah
Well, you're never gonna find another love like mine
Someone's gonna do you like you done me honey
And when she does you like she'll do you, it ain't funny
You'll need some sympathy
But don't be calling me
Hey blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating
Two-timing, double dealing
Mean mistreating, loving heart

Are you headed for a heartache, oh yeah
Gonna get a bad break, oh yeah
You made a bad mistake, oh yeah
Well, you're never gonna find another love like mine
Someone's gonna do you like you done me honey
And when she does you like she'll do you, it ain't funny
You need some sympathy
But don't be calling me
Hey blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating
Two-timing, double dealing
Mean mistreating, loving heart

Hey blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating, two-timing, double dealing
Mean mistreating, loving heart

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Mark,

My DH and I heard this song in the car one night during my snooping stage of this A ordeal. I knew at that point and I cranked it up and started to sing along. He talked over the song trying to drown it out. I couldn't help it.

Sometimes I can't help but crank up songs like this even now. I guess there's some residual anger left. Oh well my bad.


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During the last car ride I will ever take with my ex, Carrie Underwood's Before He Cheats song came on. I cranked it up and sang along. And my ex drives a 4 wheel drive with leather seats, and OW is a bleached blond tramp. So it was very fitting.

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To be honest, songs about cheatin' always depressed me. Now they depress me ever more. I'm a die-hard romantic/idealist, which means I'm still looking for things as they should be as compared to the downer side of life.

Bargain - The Who

This song has been my favorite since the first time I heard it, back in high school. It sums up what we're all really after, anyway. I've been listening to it a lot over the past two months, trying to remind myself what the ultimate goal is. It's kept me going, to be honest.


"Bargain"
written by Pete Townshend

I'd gladly lose me to find you
I'd gladly give up all I had
To find you I'd suffer anything and be glad
I'd pay any price just to get you
I'd work all my life and I will
To win you I'd stand naked, stoned and stabbed

I'd call that a bargain
The best I ever had
The best I ever had

I'd gladly lose me to find you
I'd gladly give up all I got
To catch you I'm gonna run and never stop
I'd pay any price just to win you
Surrender my good life for bad
To find you I'm gonna drown an unsung man

I'd call that a bargain
The best I ever had
The best I ever had


I sit looking 'round
I look at my face in the mirror
I know I'm worth nothing without you
And like one and one don't make two
One and one make one
And I'm looking for that free ride to me
I'm looking for you

I'd gladly lose me to find you
I'd gladly give up all I got
To catch you I'm gonna run and never stop
I'd pay any price just to win you
Surrender my good life for bad
To find you I'm gonna drown an unsung man

I'd call that a bargain
The best I ever had
The best I ever had

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Me: BH (49)
Her: WW (47)
Sons: 23, 22
EA 3/07?-12/08
PA 6/07-10/08
D-Day 11/12/08
NC established 1/1/09

A good start to what could be a great '09.
Or not.


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FWW 50
S26 S24
EA 3/07-1/09
PA 5/07-10/08
NC finally established after eight false starts: 1/23/09
Final Version of Events 6/09
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Death Cab for Cutie's Crooked Teeth still describes my situation to a tee.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iw7YcxPug1w

It was one hundred degrees, as we sat beneath a willow tree,
Who's tears didn't care, they just hung in the air, and refused to fall, to fall.

And I knew I'd made horrible call,
And now the state line felt like the Berlin wall,
And there was no doubt about which side I was on.

Cause I built you a home in my heart,
With rotten wood, it decayed from the start.

Cause you can't find nothing at all,
If there was nothing there all along.
No you can't find nothing at all,
If there was nothing there all along.

I braved treacherous streets,
And kids strung out on homemade speed.
And we shared a bed in which I could not sleep,
At all, woo, hoo, woo, hooOoOo.

Cause at night the sun in retreat,
Made the skyline look like crooked teeth,
In the mouth of a man who was devouring, us both.

You're so cute when you're slurring your speech,
But they're closing the bar and they want us to leave.

And you can't find nothing at all,
If there was nothing there all along.
No you can't find nothing at all,
If there was nothing there all along.

I'm a war, of head versus heart,
And it's always this way.
My head is weak, my heart always speaks,
Before I know what it will say.

And you can't find nothing at all,
If there was nothing there all along.
There were churches, theme parks and malls,
But there was nothing there all along.


I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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Definitely Chris Daughtry. These songs really hit home.

1. What About Now?

2. It's Not Over

3. Over You

And Kellie Pickler has a new one regarding a cheating husband getting remarried. It's called "Best Days of Your Life" and was co-written by Taylor Swift. Can see it on Youtube.

Sorry, I don't know how to set up links to songs.

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I recently discovered Verizon Ringbacks on my cell phone. As I discovered, the really cool part is you can have custom ringbacks for certain people! Here's some from the last month for whenever STBXWW calls:

1. Dueling Banjo's (OM is WW's 2nd cousin) Luckily WW still has not figured out the reference.

2. Spiderwebs (No Doubt) "It's all your fault, I screeeeeeen my phone calls!" This is good choice for those who are in a Dark Plan B as well.

3. Throwing it All Away - Genesis


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D Day 2 8/19/08

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I love Merle Haggard and just a couple months ago heard this song - "Place to Fall Apart". You can watch/listen to the video on YouTube.


I'll Prob'ly Never See You Eye To Eye A-gain
This Letter's Meant To Be My Last Fare-well
But You Need To Under-stand I'm Nearly Crazy
You Need To Know My Life Has Gone To Hell

Write Me Back And Tell Me Why It Ended
Send A Letter That I Can Show My Heart
I'll Be Somewhere Between I Love You And What You're Feeling Now
Lookin' For A Place To Fall A-part

Looking For A Place To Fall A-part
Trying To Find A Place That I Can Leave My Heart
I Need To Be Somewhere Hidin' When I Feel The Teardrops Start
Lookin' For A Place To Fall A-part

I Can't Seem To Justify Your Leavin' Me
I'm Be-wildered As To How It All Came Down
I Thought Everything Was Fine Until Your Phone Call
The Call That Turned My World A-round

Send Me Word And Tell Me Why It Ended
I Need Some Final Proof To Show My Heart
I'll Be Somewhere Between I Love You And What You're Feelin' Now
Lookin' For A Place To Fall A-part


-CAZ3

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Originally penned by Lyle Lovett, the video is of Patti Lovelace again:

God Will, But I Won't

Lyrics: (Original)
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Who keeps on trusting you

When you've been cheating

And spending your nights on the town

And who keeps on saying

That he still wants you

When you're through running around

And who keeps on loving you

When you've been lying

Saying things that ain't what they seem


God does, but I don't

And God will, but I won't

That's the difference between God and me


God does, but I don't

And God will, but I won't

That's the difference between God and me


So who says he'll forgive you

And says that he'll miss you

And dream of your sweet memory


God does, but I don't

And God will, but I won't

And that's the difference between God and me


God does, but I don't

And God will, but I won't

And that's the difference between God and me

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A double play Tuesday I guess.

This one from Hank goes out to Chrys and Not2Fun...

Your Cheatin' Heart

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Your cheatin' heart will make you weep
You'll cry and cry and try to sleep
But sleep won't come the whole night through
Your cheatin' heart will tell on you
When tears come down like falling rain
You'll toss around and call my name
You'll walk the floor the way
I do your cheatin' heart will tell on you
When tears come down...
Your cheatin' heart will tell on you

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Songs are great, thanks for the call out....


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Mine today is an upbeat one.. thought I'd share

311 'Beautiful Disaster'

Today seems like a good day to burn a bridge or two
The one with old wood creaking burn away right on cue
I try to be not like that but some people really suck
Some people need to get their axing chalk it up to bad luck

I know a drugstore cowgirl so afraid of getting bored
She's always running from something so many things ignored
I might do that stuff if it didn't make me feel like [censored]
I'm on some old reality tip so many trips in it

Beautiful disaster
Flyin' down the street again
I tried to keep up
You wore me out and left me ate up
Now I wish you all the luck
You're a butterfly in the wind without a care
A pretty train crash to me and I can't care
I do I don't whatever

I know a drugstore cowgirl so afraid of getting bored
She's always running from something so many things ignored
I try to be not like this but I thought it'd make a good song
There's nothing to see shows over people just move along

Beautiful disaster
Flyin' down the street again
I tried to keep up
You wore me out and left me ate up
Now I wish you all the luck
You're a butterfly in the wind without a care
A pretty train crash to me and I can't care
I do I don't whatever


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Thanks James...

Since we're on a more positive note, here's one from Montgomery Gentry...

Lucky Man

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I have days where I hate my job,
This little town and the whole world too
And last sunday when the bengals lost
Lord it put me in a bad mood

I have moments when I curse the rain
Then complain when the suns too hot
I look around at what everyone has
And I forget about all I've got

But I know Im a lucky man
Gods given me a pretty fair hand
Got a house and piece of land
A few dollars in a coffee can
My old truck's still runnin' good
My tickers tickin like they say it should
I've got supper in the oven
A good woman's lovin
And one more day to be my little kids dad
Lord knows I'm a lucky man

Got some friends that would be here fast
I could call em any time of day
Got a brother who's got my back
Got a momma who I swear's a saint
Got a brand new rod and reel
Got a full week off this year
Dad had a close call last spring
It's a miracle he's still here

[chorus]

My old truck's still runnin' good
My tickers tickin like they say it should
I got supper in the oven
A good womans lovin'
And even my bad days aint that bad
Yeah I'm a lucky man

I'm a lucky, lucky man

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Another uplifting tune, this one from Brandon Heath, going out to those working hard at changes that seem to go unnoticed...

I'm Not Who I Was

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I wish you could see me now
I wish I could show you how
I'm not who I was
I used to be mad at you
A little on the hurt side too
But I'm not who I was

I found my way around
To forgiving you
Some time ago
But I never got to tell you so

I found us in a photograph
I saw me and I had to laugh
You know, I'm not who I was
You were there, you were right above me
And I wonder if you ever loved me
Just for who I was

When the pain came back again
Like a bitter friend
It was all that I could do
To keep myself from blaming you

I reckon it's a funny thing
I figured out I can sing
Now I'm not who I was
I write about love and such
Maybe 'cause I want it so much
I'm not who I was

I was thinking maybe I
I should let you know
I am not the same
But I never did forget your name
Hello

Well the thing I find most amazing
In amazing grace
Is the chance to give it out
Maybe that's what love is all about

I wish you could see me now
I wish I could show you how
I'm not who I was

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This one from Garth Brooks goes out to Not2Fun. Let's hope you can find a solution not found in this song...

And The Thunder Rolls

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Three thirty in the morning
Not a soul insight
The city's lookin' like a ghost town
On a moonless summer night
Raindrops on the windshield
There's a storm moving in
He's headin' back from somewhere
That he never should have been
And the thunder rolls
And the thunder rolls

Every light is burnin'
In a house across town
She's pacin' by the telephone
In her faded flannel gown
Askin' for miracle
Hopin' she's not right
Prayin' it's the weather
That's kept him out all night
And the thunder rolls
And the thunder rolls

The thunder rolls
And the lightnin' strikes
Another love grows cold
On a sleepless night
As the storm blows on
Out of control
Deep in her heart
The thunder rolls

She's waitin' by the window
When he pulls into the drive
She rushes out to hold him
Thankful he's alive
But on the wind and rain
A strange new perfume blows
And the lightnin' flashes in her eyes
And he knows that she knows
And the thunder rolls
And the thunder rolls

The thunder rolls

And the lightnin' strikes
Another love grows cold
On a sleepless night
As the storm blows on
Out of control
Deep in her heart
The thunder rolls

She runs back down the hallway
To the bedroom door
She reaches for the pistol
Kept in the dresser drawer
Tells the lady in the mirror
He won't do this again
Cause tonight will be the last time
She'll wonder where he's been


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This thread has become my first stop when I check in to MB. Music is such a powerful thing. Thank you, Mark.


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L4, I don't know how long I can keep it going, but we'll see.

Not2Fun...Paging Not2Fun...Don't miss the dedication to you on this thread...

Mark

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You may not know it, but I was once a country bumpkin and one of my favorite bands was Alabama. I saw them many many times and actually had the opportunity to talk with them on their tour bus. Anyhoo, here is a song that really defined my view of what NOT to do in M as a teen growing up. Never in a million years did I think I would be on the receiving end of it, but what you gonna do.

I'm gonna send this one out to Not2Fun and the other ladies at MB that find themselves at a crossroads...

Alabama - Lady Down On Love

Its her first night on the town since she was just eighteen, a lady down on
Love and out of hope and dreams.
The ties that once bound her now are broke away, and shes like a baby, just
Learning how to play.

She never thought that love could ever end so soon.
Her mind drifts back in time to a mid-summer moon when he asked her to marry
And she glady said o.k.
And a woman came to be from the girl of yesterday.

Now shes a lady down on love.
She needs somebody to gentley pick her up.
Shes got her freedom, but shed rather be bound to a man who would love her
And never let her down.

Well, I know a lady thats down on her love, cause I used to hold her and
Have that special touch.
But work took me a way from home late at nights, and I wasnt there when she
Turned out the lights.
Then both of us got lonely and I gave into lust, and she just couldnt live
With a man she couldnt trust.

Now shes a lady down on love.
She needs somebody to gently pick her up.
She's got her freedom, but shed rather be bound to man who would love her
And never let her down.
Now shes a lady down on love.

Lady Down On Love


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 Originally Posted By: Mark1952
L4, I don't know how long I can keep it going, but we'll see.

Not2Fun...Paging Not2Fun...Don't miss the dedication to you on this thread...

Mark


I didn't...... \:D

And no, there will be no "pistol" whipping going on here.....remember, SRN is in retirement...... ....well, ESPECIALLY right now with the surgery and all......

Hey, did you see I FINALLY edited my thread links????.....Looks like Not is getting a little smarter in her old age...... ;)....this is what happens when you have nothing better to do and physically you CAN'T do anything......lol

Anyway, I don't have any song to share......

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