I kicked my boyfriend out a few days ago and he's staying with a friend. To make a long story short, I found out he was having an E/PA with a married woman for 3 years. He has been confused as he says he loves us both equally.

She claims to be in an unhappy marriage for the past 5 years( the duration of her marriage). She says she has no love for her husband. They have no children, but will not leave him unless my ex gets an apartment so they can move in together. I feel she's a user and is staying with her husband in order to live in a nice house and not struggle on her own. She has a job and makes decent money. But she's not willing to give up house and comfort unless she has to.

I told my ex this type of personality is not as sweet as he thinks. She is the type who though miserable in a relationship will not leave unless there is someone else in the wings waiting for her. She is also the type who does not care if she is using her husband for her comfort and will sleep beside that man every night and have sex with him in order to maintain her lifestyle.

She has told my ex she does not care where they live(small apartment IF he does get one as rent in my area is VERY expensive) as long as she is with him. I would love to see how long that last.

Anyway, it seems the ex is always making excuses for her behavior. As though he cannot see any red flags. She is perfect in his eyes. Just a sweet victim who does not use anyone.

I say she is a cake eater just like him. They deserve each other!

Inform the OWH - that should bring the OW's cake-eating to a halt very quickly.

Expose today to the other woman's betrayed husband and then dump this guy for good. Don't look back. Fortunatly you never got married to him.

But do let the OW's BH know what is happening in his marriage today.

Toss this guy. You can have so much fun with a Plan FU that neither one of them will forget it. I'm sorta jealous.

You are probably feeling a bit conflicted since it's only been a few days since you tossed your BF. Take some time for you, think about your needs. And count your blessings that you didn't get further along in your relationship before something like this happened.

Then Expose to the OWH, expose to exBF's family, friends, etc., and watch the fireworks!

And of course post back here with details of his outrage Have fun with this...

I wish I could expose. But do not have OW's Husbands info. Not even her last name. I I will do some major snooping. BTW,does anyone here speak Czech?. If I do find info. I would like to send the BH a letter in his language so it can be very clear. Perhaps he can even read it to her parents and family back in her country.

If you want to translate to Czech, enter English to Czech in google an you will find many (free)sites. You also may check with the Tech school or College in your area to see if they have a Czech language course. My mom's side of the family is Czech and she took a refressher course when she retired.

Also as far as finding info about OW see if you have her phone # anywhere,cell, caller ID, etc and use a reverse phone number look up, most are free. Many give address too.

good luck,take care.

Daniel