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Is it normal to feel insecure about OW? she is very close to ex's ideal. She has a sort of aristocratic looks of a ballerina. Flawless skin,long shiny black hair and perfect body. I'm feeling insecure about myself when I compare her to me. Plus,she's under 30 and younger. I sort of can't blame him for not being able to decide.
Not only that,she is calm,sophisticated with a European accent. This is almost like a movie script of what the OW is. I used to be confident about my looks, but now I feel like crap! Why can't I stop this?
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Matty, I know your ex hurt you, but thank your lucky stars that you did not marry this yoyo. If he's cheating NOW, you can bet a marriage license won't change anything.
Who cares what OW looks like? Looks are a very small part of who a person is. There are lots of BS on here whose OW are fugly and they hurt just as bad as you. It's not about OW's looks, it's about your ex's morals. He not only cheated on you but he cheated with a cheater. He's definitely not marriage material.
Letitgo... move on with your life. You deserve a man who will treat you well and be faithful to you.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Heck yea, normal to feel insecure about exs OW. More later...
Last edited by DNU1; 01/28/09 11:13 AM.
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Please, this woman is Eurotrash. Even high priced hookers can be attractive. What you're feeling is normal and should pass in time unless you choose to value yourself based on the looks of a tramp. This woman is fugly in every way that counts.
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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Not only that,she is calm,sophisticated with a European accent. This is almost like a movie script of what the OW is. I used to be confident about my looks, but now I feel like crap! Why can't I stop this? But she is ugly on the inside. You can put lipstick on a PIG, but you still have a PIG. Quit comparing yourself to pigs already! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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If it wasn't your BF it would be someone else OW "used" to get out of her unhappy situation. There is nothing more than her taking the lazy way out and nothing special about how she feels about him. If not him she would have hopped on some other knight's horse.
honesty and loyalty are beautiful.
Daniel
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Matty
Yes it is very normal to compare,, I could write a book about it, LOL
But ask yourself "if" she is all that why is she messing around with an attached man??
Na trash is as trash does
Me BS 46
FWH 50
married 29 years
seperated 6/03 (FWH lived with OW)
came home 2/04 many broken NC's, many false recoverys
But!! In full recovery now and for the most part doing great!
Ps 3 grown children and 2 awesome grands!
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