Hi All,

I appreciate all your support through this.

We had a couple very rough days. WH finally admitted during our counseling session that he had an affair. I read him my letter to him explaining why I have to know, why I already know, why I'm 'stuck' as he would say....it really got through to him, but I think he knew it was now or I was leaving. It was so hard to get through to him and so if anyone's struggling out there with how to convey your feelings please feel free to read one of my last entries on my story, hopefully it will help others because it's so hard to put to words.
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubb...in=155203&Number=2185326#Post2185326

WH professes that there was nothing with OW, that he has been beyond remorseful, that it was only a couple times while I was away, that he loves me more than anything and doesn't want to lose me.

So now at least the dialogue has begun. I really don't know if he's being truthful. I will be checking up and asking for proof on some things, but really, where do I go from here? I really hadn't thought much past this step.

Was lying in bed last night and just couldn't stay, slept part of night on couch....

Thanks again to all and I'm so glad to have found others that understand.

Dear allemotions!

These are good news.
I suppose he still has some miles to walk until he is fully open and honest to you. But this is a start. You will have to work on making him feel safe in his confession. Remember this is highly embarrassing and humiliating to him.

As regards you starting a new thread; I would suggest you stay with the original thread. Give it a new name and copy these two posts into it, and then close this thread (Post a link to the other and ask people to post there). It will be easier for people to keep up with your situation if your entire story is found one place only. Besides it will then serve as a journal for you to document the progress or lack of progress. Six months from now such a journal may prove useful. It is terrible how quickly we forget! If you six months from now can read these posts and find that what you struggle with then are smaller issues than what you struggle with now then there has been some improvement. That would be nice to see. The feelings will not allways register such changes.

God bless your struggle