WEll I went to work today for the first time in 2 weeks since my x yes I called him my x left to find himself.
It was okay not great really busy so it kept my mind off him for most of the day.
Well while I was gone he came to my house talked to the kids, told them about his great new place ect...
Doesn't he see they are hurt too. Is he that selfish and stupid that he doesn't realize their relationship is in danger.
Theses are young men who love me and are at a very bad place right now because of the pain he is causing me and because he walked out on them too.
I am done, it's too late to save this 25 year relationship I hate him.

You're not done when you hate him. You're done when you feel indifferent. And that might be the rub for you like it was for me: the kids. That's when my balloon for him really started to deflate.

Okay I get what you are saying but I feel so much better, wow what a differance it makes to relize I don't want him and his lies in my life.

Browneyes,

Not every M can be saved and some just shouldn't be. Stay strong and protect your family. ((((BE))))

browneyes, you should keep your story under one posting. It gets confusing if people here are trying to follow it.

I know you are in a bad place right now, but take one day at a time. You are still wrapped up in what your husband is doing versus what you are doing for yourself and your boys.

I know your H showed up at the house when you are not home, you also need to make sure that you do not see him there. Keep up with NC. That will save you for now.

WEll he came by tonight after work to have me sign a paper he needed signed. Walked in like he lived there and came up to me in the dark by the fire and handed me the paper and said can you sign this.
I said Hi there Ron, I would like to go into the kitchen so I can see the paper please, would you like some coffee?
He said no I am in a hurry, i am tired and I want to get home.
We talked a little about the money stuff and he has promised to sign the house over to me, he says he will talk to my lawyer and make it legal.
He again said he hasn't loved me in years and it is a relief to be on his own.
I swear I was looking at someone I have loved for 25 years and I don't even know him at all.
It is so wierd, I calmly said, your wrong you have always loved me and you still do, you are going through something wierd and I don't understand it, but I can't let it hurt me anymore.
I know we had a great marriage, but he doesn't.

OK.....in my book thats where the baseball bat came into play....

Polce officer: so what happened?

Browneyes: All I know Is i heard someone in my house after dark without my permission and I felt I needed to protect myself and sons who were sleeping in the next room. So I whacked him with a baseball bat because it was dark and the intruder had me very fearful for our lives.

Police Officer:You know mam it is your husband?

Browneyes: OH you mean my alien WH who left his family by his choice to fufill his selfish needs? Thats not my husband and I fear the thing he has become....but he should really know to call someone instead of sneaking in. WOW what a goose egg...I must have really clocked him.

Police OFFICER: Thats understandable maam. I would have done the same thing in your shoes...I mean how were you to know it wasn't an intruder. Go ahead and enjoy the rest of your evening. I will update you from the hospital. Looks like they will need to preform the rectal to get his head out of there. A little advice next time hit him lower.

Browneyes: Will do sir.