Oh, I know "Spaced Out!" Gee, I haven't thought about SO since the 70s.

So I have to admit I am getting just a bit of the Pre "Single's Awareness Day" blues. Oh sorry Singles Awareness Day translation... Valentines Day. Kids are telling Dad that they want to buy me something. I told DD17 I would love a new pair of PJ's. I say get me a gift card from Victoria's Secrets LOL So when they ask there dad they want money for a gift from Victoria's Secrets he can let his mind wonder what I am buying! LOL.

Last year for Valentines Day, H left me a card and he actually wrote inside of it alot of really nice things. He said how much he loved me and how he was grateful that I have always been there for him through all the ups and the downs.

I cried, he never really wrote in the cards. It really touched me and he left me a mini rose bush with it that I have planted and have to look at every time I walk in the door.

Of course after D-day i found out that 2 weeks after that card the EA went to PA and "real" H was never to be seen again.

I'm sure I will be fine, I managed to half way survive my 1st Christmas season with out him. So many 1st time without him gonna be coming up, DD17 turns 18 tomorrow, he won't be here. His bday March and then Easter...Yes I will be fine but I still really dislike it.

I have planned to go to my 1st salsa lesson next Monday. Going with a friend so I can't flake out. I am forcing myself even though I do love them. Guess I'm weird.

Ok reminder Valentines day is just another day no big deal repeat after me Valentines day is just another day no big deal one more time Valentines Day is just another day no big deal

I think you should suggest to dd17 that she have a "Singles Awareness Day" party for maybe half a dozen or so of her friends. It's going to be on the weekend, so its' a great time for a party. You could get pink and white helium balloons and napkins and make pink snacks (cupcakes, punch, strawberry cream cheese on mini bagels, you get the idea). They could play some board games and watch sappy stupid movies if they wanted to. Basically a slumber party with a theme. They could even bring a gift for $10 or less, wrapped, and have a white elephant kind of a thing.

Do you think she'd like that? It would be a good distraction for you, I think, and a lot more fun than moping around the house.

sounds like a great party, wish I could attend.

My D15 is going to Valentine's day dance. That night noone will be around. That will be a tough one gulp gulp.

T2L, lets click our ruby slippers and say "I want him home, I want him home", away from the wicked witches of the east.

That does sound like a fun. I think however DD17 and her BF may be going do do the Valentines thing that day. I wish I knew more single girls but my friends are either married or have boyfriends. I'll be fine, even if I have a bit of a cry I always pick up and keep going. I'll find something to distract me.

Valentine's Day is waaayyy over-rated. It was fun in elementary school (at least for those who got Valentines, not so much for those who didn't) but gee, it has become SOOOOO commericalized, it's pretty much become meaningless.

I think it sets couples up for failure... invariably, one person isn't going to get what they "expect" and there's a big let down. Not too many people can afford the diamonds that are advertised on the TV commercials before Valentine's Day. It also falls within a few days of my birthday, so I've always hated that! My poor sis' birthday IS on Valentines... boy talk about pressure.

I dunno, just call me a Valentine's Day Scrooge!

Just let this one slide right on by T2L. When H comes home, you guys can celebrate Valentine's Day every day.

Here's what I'm going do on Valentines's Day. Run into a store, punch a few giant teddy bears, throw some flowers and a box of candy on the floor, then run out yelling, "That's what I think about Valentine's Day!"

OMG Thank you so much for such a great laugh!!! If your doing that anyways, I'll be thinking of you. That was a priceless!

Clean up on aisle four!

For what it's worth, DH and I don't celebrate VD. The commercialism and attempts to guilt us into paying for things we neither need nor want (jewelry, chocolates, dinner out, etc.) just piss us off.

Wow, I thought that would have gotten censored.
I'm so bad, look what I said on MB!! :MrEEk:

My dear, that's because Texas is so big it takes UP half of everything.

T2L, what are the odds that you can get someone to spend the night with your kids on VD and you go and do a one-night stayover at a nice lake cabin or B&B or somethin'? Two birds...give you a great break, and drive your WH absolutely batty!

Well planning something like that to drive him crazy since it seems last weekend has now got him asking son if I am visiting my BF LOL. Maybe a just for a few hours in the evening. IDK still mulling over things to do for Valentines Day.

Can't really take a trip yet, finances and all, H is trying to keep two residences, ours and the Sea Hag Den so there isn't a whole lot of extra. Gonna be filing for taxes so hopefully I will taking the kids on a trip. We haven't done anything but a few day trips since this all happened last April.

Funny thing is on Monday H was talking to DD17 and she telling H that someone has offered to let me use some of their time share time all I have to do is pay for travel. H says to her wow that sounds fun, I haven't been on vacation in a long time. This guys wants to go, he said it during Plan A, but sorry I am not sharing anymore. DD17 just looks at me and rolls her eyes and laughs quietly. Not my worry he's the one volunteering to give up a vacation with us. That's his choice.

Hi T2L-

When my OD(26) was in college, she and her roommates started what is now the Annual Evil Dead Valentine's Day Marathon. It certainly does make for a very "non-traditional" Valentine Celebration.

A friend of mine refers to V-day as:

"Happy Feel Like [insert euphemism for excrement] if you're single day"

Joking aside, take a trip. You deserve it.

and then you run down those aisles -- punching those teddy bears again. I would make sure I grab a few boxes of chocolate to snark them all down -- pounds of chocolate and smear the rest of the chocolate on the floor like .....

If I see that commercial where they are in St. Mark's square and the couple start seeing family members and he gives her the "forever diamond", I am going to throw a pan at my tv set and sit here and be the valentine grinch

Wow, another Kiwi stereotype of Americans blasted into space.

*note to self, 'not all Americans go over board on Valentines Day, in fact some of them hate it'.*

You are all funny We dont do anything much although the TV tries to hype it up.

Personally, I don't think it makes much sense for anybody to celebrate V.D. Hard to get appropriate cards, for one thing. "I'm so glad you're here with me today...(inside) "Just don't be gonorrhea tomorrow." And the commercials? "For the girl who has everything but an STD..." I don't think it's ever going to catch on as a significant holiday, but that's just MY opinion!

tl

I was starting to think I was the only one who was reading VD as venereal disease

I never fantasied about Valentines Day since I spent the last 22 years with my H. We went to dinner usually as a family -- now all I can do not to burst out in tears as I pass the Halmark store.

Maybe it is not so much for myself and not even lasting romantic memories, but thoughts of my H spending it with the plastic pinata that it might be a longer night than New Years.

WE need to create a new un-tradition for this holiday.
Maybe I will rent the horror flick "my bloody valentine"

T2L, you don't need anywhere fancy for an overnight - just a flop house LOL!

Start thinking if you have any friends you could spend a night with sometime in the not-too-distant future, even if it's not on VD.

Let slip that she's going out for V.D. :MrEEk:

tl