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Why does this keep happening?
#2207274 02/06/09 03:57 AM
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Re: Why does this keep happening?
barelysurviving #2207282 02/06/09 05:37 AM
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She is a serial cheater. She seems to get some sick pleasure in denying you sex. You should have left her before your affairs. She is unrepentant and will not change. Why do you continue to remain chained to her, when you have the key. For the kids. You think this is a good example of marriage for them? You should have never taken her back. Dump her. SHE WILL NOT CHANGE ...................... EVER!
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Originally Posted by barelysurviving
Been married for 19 yrs. Wife had an affair with co-worker at 4 yrs.


Originally Posted by barelysurviving
HELP GET ME OFF THIS CRAZY TRAIN!!!

This is why I almost ALWAYS advise to get out quick if infidelity takes place very early in an M, and certainly before any children are involved. Your WW gave you a reason to walk away, but you chose to remain. My FWW did me the same thing, though her first cheating happened before we were M'd, and I foolishly convinced myself that it wouldn't happen again after we take our vows. Yeah, right.

Your current situation is a bit worse than mine though, as it seems you're involved with a serial cheater with no remorse and no interest in forming an intimate relationship with you. My suggestion would be to D if you can. Your relationship with your WW is likely setting a very bad example for your kids.

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ouchthathurt #2207294 02/06/09 07:11 AM
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Long term serial cheater.

Best you move on. Doubt she can be fixed.

Give the Harley' one phone call.
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barelysurviving #2207440 02/06/09 10:41 AM
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Your WW kissed your own brother and turns to men that treated her like dirt...I think she wants to be the "bad girl" that not only cheats but goes to the point of picking the worse people possible to have an A with. Your wife is a very unhealthy person. Plan D may be your best option rather than expose yourself and your children to her destructive behavior. Is she still continuing her As with her exBFs?

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Re: Why does this keep happening?
black_raven #2207547 02/06/09 12:22 PM
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No, step 1 has been completed. Haven't really gotten to step 2 but we are in counseling with a therapist that got me onto this website and Harley's books.

I would say this is the first time that it seems there is an actual recognition that something different has to occur, ie. counseling, Harley approach, etc.

At this point, I know I would not get the kids full time and since we are able to shield them from it at least at this young age, I am not ready to go to plan D as it would irrevocably alter their lives.

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