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What's wrong with me? My W is willing (although reluctantly at times) to talk about the A and answer questions but I do get a lot of I don't knows and can't remember. I don't think she is lying. At worst she is trying to protect my feelings but more than likely she really can't remember or doesn't know why she did or said certain things with the OM. There is nothing wrong with you. You have the right to get true answers to your questions. For 14 yrs.I got the same answers you got ,I don'tremember or what differance does it make. Finally I got closure but that doesn't mean that I can forget. I still think about it from time to time. I could have accepted her death better than the A in the begining Why? I don't know I wish I did.
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Thanks for starting this thread. It has some really good suggestions in it.
I think about the A every day... but not all day the way I used to right after D-day. I look forward to a future time when I hopefully get to say, "Gee, I didn't think about the A yesterday". I believe this will happen sometime in the future and then maybe there will be two days, etc.
Sorry. I know this is not any help to you. But certainly the other posters comments have been helpful to me.
AM
BW - 70
WH - 65
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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I think about it every day.
The maximum amount of time I go without thinking about it is the length of a really good movie. 2 to 3 hours. Wow. That's scary. I'm pretty much the same as you know but I'm hoping that in a couple of years it will be less. Only time will tell. I wouldn't sweat it. I'd bet that in 2 years you'll be in a much better place than I am. None of the norms seem to apply to me. It might be me, my situation, or both.
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I agree with armymama. For years I thought I was crazy. After reading some of the post I can see I am half way normal.
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