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Your girlfriend is dishonest, secretive, and sneaky.
Do you want to stay with a person like that?
Do you think she will change? Thats really what I'm trying to work through right now, but everyone else seems interested in my first marriage.
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So maybe in retrospect, the last four years being as miserable as they were, the result of poor choices. I understand this. Good. Then it's time to make some good choices. For example: 1. Get custody of your son. 2. No more contact with the XW - she's obviously not relationship-material anyway. 3. Ask your GF to move out, and from that point have as minimal contact with her as possible - she obviously isn't relationship-material either. 4. Take a breather from relationships for awhile and work on YOU.
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The house is in my name. So no, I'm not moving out.
As well, my child will always be provided for, and I refuse to give up custody of him.
Of course I have the desire to be a good human being, like I said friend, I fully own what I've done, and I'm even considering calling her exhb and apologizing.
Until today, no, I didn't realize I was in an affair based relationship. So maybe in retrospect, the last four years being as miserable as they were, the result of poor choices. I understand this.
But, once again dude. Quit projecting your anger on me. Did you use the word 'dude'?  I thought we were adults? I'm not in the least bit angry. I gave you the advice you asked for. If you can't hack it that does not indicate I am angry. It's indicative of your committment.
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So maybe in retrospect, the last four years being as miserable as they were, the result of poor choices. I understand this. Good. Then it's time to make some good choices. For example: 1. Get custody of your son. 2. No more contact with the XW - she's obviously not relationship-material anyway. 3. Ask your GF to move out, and from that point have as minimal contact with her as possible - she obviously isn't relationship-material either. 4. Take a breather from relationships for awhile and work on YOU. I havent seen/heard from my exwf since 2005?!?!
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So maybe in retrospect, the last four years being as miserable as they were, the result of poor choices. I understand this. Good. Then it's time to make some good choices. For example: 1. Get custody of your son. 2. No more contact with the XW - she's obviously not relationship-material anyway. 3. Ask your GF to move out, and from that point have as minimal contact with her as possible - she obviously isn't relationship-material either. 4. Take a breather from relationships for awhile and work on YOU. I havent seen/heard from my exwf since 2005?!?! Good - that makes choice #2 a whole lot easier to make  . Now, what about the others?
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Wow, what a circus.
I'm just gonna sit back and watch this one.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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So maybe in retrospect, the last four years being as miserable as they were, the result of poor choices. I understand this. Good. Then it's time to make some good choices. For example: 1. Get custody of your son. 2. No more contact with the XW - she's obviously not relationship-material anyway. 3. Ask your GF to move out, and from that point have as minimal contact with her as possible - she obviously isn't relationship-material either. 4. Take a breather from relationships for awhile and work on YOU. I havent seen/heard from my exwf since 2005?!?! Good - that makes choice #2 a whole lot easier to make . Now, what about the others? So there is nothing at all but breaking my family up?
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[quote=Apox]So maybe in retrospect, the last four years being as miserable as they were, the result of poor choices. I understand this. Good. Then it's time to make some good choices. For example: 1. Get custody of your son. 2. No more contact with the XW - she's obviously not relationship-material anyway. 3. Ask your GF to move out, and from that point have as minimal contact with her as possible - she obviously isn't relationship-material either. 4. Take a breather from relationships for awhile and work on YOU. I havent seen/heard from my exwf since 2005?!?! Good - that makes choice #2 a whole lot easier to make . Now, what about the others? So there is nothing at all but breaking my family up? [/quote] I think you'll be hard pressed to get someone here recommend to continue an affair. Kids or not. Good luck with whatever you decide.
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[quote=ManInMotion][quote=Apox]So maybe in retrospect, the last four years being as miserable as they were, the result of poor choices. I understand this. Good. Then it's time to make some good choices. For example: 1. Get custody of your son. 2. No more contact with the XW - she's obviously not relationship-material anyway. 3. Ask your GF to move out, and from that point have as minimal contact with her as possible - she obviously isn't relationship-material either. 4. Take a breather from relationships for awhile and work on YOU. I havent seen/heard from my exwf since 2005?!?! Good - that makes choice #2 a whole lot easier to make . Now, what about the others? So there is nothing at all but breaking my family up? [/quote] I think you'll be hard pressed to get someone here recommend to continue an affair. Kids or not. Good luck with whatever you decide. [/quote] I decided to end it. Already told her.
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Protect your son. He should be the center of your focus. Work on you. Don't begin a new R until you have recovered from this one.
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DDay EA 4/05
DDay PA 6/05
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