Okay here is the skinny.......... I had A 7 months ago, I told my Wife 2 fridays ago....My wife and I owne a business with another couple (life time freinds).We all have been ever ever close with in the last 2 years or so like doing everything together...And yep it happened one drunken night the A happened which her husdand seen so I guess he has been holding it in for the last 7 months it was killing me so 2 fridays ago I told my wife.... I had ended everything with other girl the day after telling her it was stuipid I never e-mail phoned nothing .... My wife asked if there was anyone eles I was with which where isn't but I hide my text messege with another girl and I swear I havn't meet this other girl in plbic but of course my wife is so mad at me and I'am sure she thinks there was something with this text girl but like i said nothing not even close and never even crossed my mind to tell you the truth.... But my wife is mad and rightfully so.... Okay now here is whats getting me here and mad i have to give my head a shake but still drives me crazy...My wife told me 4 days after me telling her about the A that she has very strong feelings for the girls husband and she tod me that in the last few months she has gotten really close she has told me that she loves him and yes there where hugs that lead to kisses but that it nothing more and she is happy she never acted on these feelings from the both of them and one more thing he has came clean and has told me that he is in love with my wife in love my wife just says she just love him and is not in love with him like he is with her ( they to are on the rocks over this but not my worries even tho i do wish they could get better but i have to worry about me and my wife).....Its been rough I have start counselling last week by myself my wife is not ready for it she tells me we need to go alone for awhile she has yet to make any calls on her behave.......We have 2 little girls which we love so much and it hurts me to think on the worst and what kinda dad did they have I hate myself for letting this happen I would rather die then live with out them 3 wife and 2 girls......I really really do love my wife and I want this to get better so fast she told me yesterday to leave her have her space to figure things out for herself she has yet to tell me that she want to work on the two of us should I be scared? unfair question but want to know....She has not yet ever thought of telling me to leave are house and I'am even sleeping in are bed with her .......Do I need to tke the whole blame I feel she had a A also i might be wrong but didn't she? I don't want to mention that to her cuz of how mad she gets and tells me not to turn the tables here....... I just want to fix this so bad it hurts I want her to give me a chance to show her what a wonderful life we can have I need to show her badly.... I know this kinda all over the map here but need someone to get me focused on what needs to be done ...... Thanks Also sorry but I posted this in the question area yeaterday wrong spot i think sorry

NC, NC, NC sell the business to him or buy him out. If you don't all you are doing is throwing gasoline on a fire.

Okay fair enough ....................now what in the heck do I do if she don't want to sell??? She doesn't think she has did anything wrong her..that is my problem.......I think Iam reading to much into it....I'am very very confused I like what we have going on in the bus. but I need to trust that this wont happen again if I even have a another chance with my wife I love her so much .....I would rather die then not be in her life 24/7.........What do I do feel like leaving so bad like hiding in a hole somewhere .............Do you think there was more then kissing and hugging and if he didn't want to tell MW about what he knew what in the heck where they talking about to get that close to kiss?????

Confused Hate myself and hurt (but don't want to tell her how I'am feeling about the 2 of them)