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Before he told the boys ex gave me a heads up telling me he moved out of gf's house, the one he moved in with 10 days after the divorce was final but "did not have an affair with", to an apartment he had for about four months prior to the move to gf's.
This apartment is about 25-30 minutes away from my house VS 50 min. so that should please the boys and make driving responsibilities much nicer for my. Did I say any of the nasty things that ran through my mind? No. I just thanked him for the heads up and said the boys would be pleased to have him closer. I feel so grown up!
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Congrats on taking the high road, nams. We'll think all those nasty things along with you.
Divorced.
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Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
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I'll bet that was so tempting, but good for you for being the better person and not getting sucked into what probably would have made you feel bad in the end anyway.
Always better to stay in control. I wonder if you surprised him?
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"Stop yappin and make it happen."
"The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you."
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Married 21 years.
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Well, I don't know if he was surprised or not. We have always tended to have a civil relationship and not say things to rock the boat. Though the other day when he began to offer advice on how I might keep my house cleaner I shut that conversation down quick.
I'm so tempted to pump the boys for info. but it's probably unlikely they know much anyway. They did say he told them he and gf weren't getting along and that he was moving out to see if things got better. Who knows what that really means. Time will tell. Either way, he's closer and that means he can pick up some driving duties.
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.... and because you are a good mother, a mature woman, and a class act, you will not follow through on the urge to pump the boys for info.
And the boys will know that you value them more than your own feelings.
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Thank you, Bellevue. I do try. The only other info. that has come my way, not through any questioning on my part, is the fact that ex is considering using his RV to live in over the summer.
The place he is in now is in a beach community so the owners rent it out weekly over the summer at exorbitant prices. When he first moved out he took the RV to a campground in a nearby town and the boys loved it. The pool, the freedom to roam, being outside much of the time...quite nice really. They are older now so that may make a difference, but they are excited by the prospect. Plus, ex will be closer and they can see their friends more easily than they can from his current location.
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Hi nams, I tracked you down! Just stopping by to say hi. I posted a bit on ENs. You sound good! 
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Hi FHL, aren't you sweet to track me down. Since the EN board seems to be the central local I'll catch you up over there.
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