Of course not, that's what I'm here for... the feedback, even if I don't always follow the advice. As for the adventures, hopefully it will be a dull roar from here on out.

Coolio.

That's right. It is. Now do what you can to recover your marriage. These boards are really depressing today and I need to read some good news from someone. Anyone. Please.

Take care.

They really seperated due to extreme Independent Behavior. Not the best way to start out a marriage...

I see a lot of hope in Roy Batty's situation.

His wife dated the OM because she thought the choice was a lonely marriage-in-name-only (living apart and only seeing each other on occasion) to Roy, or leaving and starting over with someone new.

When Roy found out about the OM, he offered his wife a new choice: a real, full-time-living-together marriage with him.

When her choice was a real marriage with Roy or starting over with the new guy... she chose Roy. Right away, without hesitation, and with no looking back.

Their challenge now is to learn to do away with the Independent Behaviors that led to their living completely seperate lives for so long.

His wife is on board. Roy is on board. They know what they have to do, and they have a second chance on their marriage, a chance to do it right this time.

In my opinion, Roy needs all the support we can give him to build his marriage, not to re-build it... because it wasn't really a marriage before. They need to learn to live together as real partners. They need to grow past their Independent Behaviors.

And I have every confidence that they are capable of doing so.

Yes, we took all our baggage from previous relationships and dumped it all into our marriage. I'm not sure what either one of us expected. The wife did try much harder than I to make things work before we actually separated. That's what I need the smack down for.

Thanks CC, that's something I can take with me. You've always had a handle on my situation. I appreciate it.