So what would an EA be then?

We are not discussing EA's here! Unless of course you think by going to a strip club means you're having an EA with a stripper?

A bit back someone in my area did have a single sided emotional affair with a stripper which ended in murder, I don't think this is typical.

http://www.theawarenesscenter.org/rabinowitz_craig.html#Husband

NJ

I dunno do I have to pay for that?

Yep.

My very good friend was in Hawaii. Her boyfriend beat her. The day he turned his physical rage toward their one-year-old child, she fled from the house and used what money she had to fly to the mainland. She had to leave the islands because the BF's family would have hunted her down. My friend found herself penniless and jobless with a baby. I don't agree with the choice she made to be a dancer, but I understand why she did. She was never a wh*** and was never a meth addict as someone before has labeled all strippers. She provided a home for her son, put him through a private school, put herself through college, and is now in the medical field with a license to practice in two states. She's married to a wonderful, professional man who knows of her past. They live on a small organic farm and are very happy.

I don't know where I stand on these places. I used to be very much against them until I saw how one helped my friend when she was in trouble. I do know I don't judge those who work in them. That's not for me to decide.

As for if it's cheating... I think someone was looking for back-up when another person put her foot down. It's not illegal. But is it something worth hurting your relationship over?

not cheating, but definately needs to be POJA'd on before. i liken it to other forms of entertainment. some people go to bars b/c they enjoy darts. others go b/c they are seeking out something or someone. some people go to church to be educated, others go to meet people. it all is what the underlying motivation is. i used to prefer going to strip clubs over bars b/c there is a lot less chance of anything happening at a strip club. now i know that i should not go to either without my spouse unless i am seeking to put myself into a BAD SITUATION.