I need some help understand how accounts work on myspace due to my husband's reply to quesions I had about his page.

He claims he just set up the account (I can verify that I checked the last week of Jan and no account, then Feb 3rd it is there with that date as last login in and didn't login again till today after I asked about it). That he didn't add the contacts that I saw there (one was an ex girlfriend) that they must have found him and that he didn't know what the status was (said single) as he hadn't been on it to really set things up.

So is that how it works? If he just started the account last week could people been listed as his contacts even without him requesting them or okaying them? Also does it automatically set you up as single and then you go and change that later?

Also, I looked at his ex's page the other day and he was listed as a contact, could that have happened without him requesting it or accepting her? Today he is no longer on her contact list, does that mean he kicked her off his page. He has now made it private and so I can't see about his side of that.

For my actual email to him and his reply you can read my thread labeded "Is it ever better not to snoop?".

Hi lit1022,

Ahhh MySpace......the breeding ground for affairs. Yep, that's where mine started.

When you first set up your account, the only "friend" you will have there automatically is Tom. He's the welcoming committee. Everyone else either has to send you a friend request or vice versa and it MUST be accepted in order to be on each other's friend list. It takes time to build up a healthy friend list, even if you spend all day on the stupid thing. When you first set up your account, it will default to "Single" as your relationship status.

When you look on someone's account, you can see when the account was created and when their last login date was (even if it is set to private).

If his xGF is no longer on his friends list, someone deleted the other. There isn't a way to tell if he deleted her or she deleted him.

If he's set his profile to private, there's a problem. There's a lot of red flags there that I would definitely check out. I no longer have an account because it interfered with my marriage. All of my social networking is done here now.

Baloney "that he didn't know what the status was (said single) as he hadn't been on it to really set things up."

There's no default marital status. Married men don't need MS or FB. It has to go.

Where do you find the info on the date the account was opened?

I only see the last login date place.

I remember that last year when I looked at his old account which was set to private it said the date the account was opened, but it doesn't seem to show that info anymore as I looked at a few other people's account too and can't find it on any of them.

I manage an account for a band so I'll check for that info tonight when I am home.

MySpace & Facebook = death for a marriage.

Check out grownupgeek.com

There's all kinds of MySpace Q&A on there. Even one thread on there that tells you how to freeze your login date. Ugh....