Some of you may remember my situation....I gave it one last shot to try to work on the marriage...husband said he wanted to as well....after him leaving 2 different times...when he told me he wanted to work on things.

He came back a few weeks ago, begging saying he wanted to work on things. I said ok. We began counseling, thought it was going well, seemed to be anyway. Husband seemed to be on board with things etc. The counselor told my husband he had some individual issues that needed to be worked on as well, as the marriage issues. My husband new this of course, and agreed.

I thought things were fine..then I found out he had been calling numbers on our cell bill. When I asked him WHY..he said he was just wondering who they were. Well come to find out, he was calling those numbers to see if they were men and if I was cheating since he did. The thing is, they weren't men. They were family/friends and business people. Plus they happened to be all women other than my dad and brother. I had no problem with him checking the cell bills, if its what he wanted to do, after all, I was the one who had NOT cheated, and had nothing to hide. I checked the cell bills as well since he was the one that had cheated and make sure the OW's number wasn't on there etc. I didn't find it, or any strange numbers.

I'm sure him doing that was due to a guilty conscience of what he had done before. Anyway, just two days ago..I come in from running errands on my day off, he was supposed to be out on a job that day. He had been, and got off earlier than he thought. I come in the house, and he is packing his things. I ask him what was he doing. He tells me he just feels its not going to work..and that he wanted out....AGAIN! I reminded him that if he left this time..that was it...3 strikes you're out deal. He said he knew and understood. I can not take anymore emotional pain. I can not live like this anymore.

He made his choice and it was to NOT work on things after all. I do NOT know if the woman he was running around with is back in the picture or not and if that is why he feels it wont work. I just wanted to update you all...now its time for the healing process to begin all over again I guess. I gave it one last shot....I feel like a fool..I really thought he wanted it to work this time..guess I was wrong! thank you for listening!

Sorry to hear this news Jilly. Strength to you sister! You have given this your best...and he still does not want to make it work.

Time to move on. Start Plan D.

Strength, patience and peace to you. D.

Thank you so much..I appreciate it!

No problem. Only you know in your heart when it's time to move on. I don't know your entire story, but even from just the post here it seems you are at peace with this decision.

Be strong!

Change the locks today.

Take every scrap of anything that is his and throw it away or give it away.
ASAP

Call an attorney. Separate any joint finances ASAP.

Do not trust him to do right by you.

((( sorry )))

Jilly, are our Hs (STBXH for me) in cahoots or what?!!?

I haven't read your story (I'll do that next) so I'll be careful what I say. Reading this here gave me deja vu though. And hon, we deserve better.

Well, I go to school in the evenings on Monday and Wednesday, that is the time he comes over to be with the kids while I'm at school...so changing the locks is probably not an option at this point. The reason he comes to the house is, he has been staying with his dad who isn't doing well medically, and doesn't want the kids over there being loud or whatever.

My head is still kind of reeling from the whole thing. I really should have expected it coming though. I guess I had hopes it would get better and he would want to work on things.

He shouldn't be in the house AT ALL while you are in Plan B. Plan B is a complete and total separation. Anything less defeats the purpose.

Put an end to this arrangement and change the locks, Jilly.

Someone told me I should be in plan D...not sure what that is...haven't really had much time to be on here and look...at work.

Plan D for divorce.

Whoever stated that was giving you their opinion of what they thought you should do.

Yes, I figured that was what it was, but wasn't sure...that is where its headed.. this was the 3rd time he left..and my 3rd and final time of taking him back and trying.