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Here is on that has only to do with a cr*ppy relationship, but not an A...it's funny and cracks me up everytime I play it. I love the piano in it...

"Foundation" by Kate Nash

Thursday night, everything's fine
Except you've got that look in your eye
When I'm telling a story, and you find it boring
You're thinking of something to say

You'll go along with it, then drop it
And humiliate me in front of our friends
Then I'll use that voice that you find annoying
And say something like,
"Yeah, intelligent input, darling.
Why don't you just have another beer then?"

Then you'll call me a [censored]
And everyone we're with will be embarrassed
And I won't give a [censored]

My fingertips are holding onto
The cracks in our foundation
And I know that I should let go, but I can't
And every time we fight I know it's not right
Every time that you're upset and I smile
I know I should forget, but I can't

You said I must eat so many lemons
'Cause I am so bitter
I said, "I'd rather be with your friends, mate,
'Cause they are much fitter."

Yes, it was childish
And you got aggressive
And I must admit that I was a bit scared
But it gives me thrills to wind you up

My fingertips are holding onto
The cracks in our foundation
And I know that I should let go, but I can't
And every time we fight I know it's not right
Every time that you're upset and I smile
I know I should forget, but I can't

Your face is pasty
'Cause you've gone and got so wasted
What a surprise
Don't want to look at your face, 'cause it's making me sick

You've gone and got sick on my trainers
only got these yesterday
Oh my gosh, I cannot be bothered with this

Well, I'll leave you there 'till the morning
And I purposely won't turn the heating on
And dear God, I hope I'm not stuck with this one

My fingertips are holding onto
The cracks in our foundation
And I know that I should let go, but I can't
And every time we fight I know it's not right
Every time that you're upset and I smile
I know I should forget, but I can't

And every time we fight I know it's not right
Every time that you're upset and I smile
I know I should forget, but I can't

And every time we fight I know it's not right
Every time that you're upset and I smile
I know I should forget, but I can't.

[Funny side note: this is our 5 year old's favorite line in the whole song: "I said, "I'd rather be with your friends, mate,
'Cause they are much fitter." She sings it at the top of her voice everysingletime it's played!

And yes, I bleep out the bad words when the kids are around. ;)]


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D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006
D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR)
Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007

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 Originally Posted By: Want2Stay
I know my mullet will be showing after this one...
And you wear is surprisingly well, W2S. I owned a white leather jacket with fringe on the sleeves. I was so cool. I'm reminded now why they didn't stay cool very long.

Hadn't heard this in years. Thanks for the flashback.

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I once had blue bell bottoms with a gold window-pane plaid pattern to them that I wore with a gold Nehru jacket, a white shirt and a blue and gold tie...

I also had a pair of white pants and white shoes that I wore with a white belt and lavendar shirt...

My fringed jacket was tan suede...

But I also wore tie-dyed tee shirts at one time...

Yep. I was a hippy type. Hair down to the middle of my back in those days.

I almost gave up boots and cowboy hats when Urban Cowboy came out. Glad THAT burned out.

I even remember when pick-up trucks were for haulin' stuff in.

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Garth Brooks - She's Gonna Make It

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He followed her to work this morning
He’d never seen that dress before
She seemed to sail right through
Those dark clouds forming
That he knows he’s headed for

After seven years of marriage
He wanted out
Now after seven months of freedom
It’s clear that there’s no doubt

She’s gonna make it
And he never will
He’s at the foot of the mountain
And she’s over that hill
He’s sinkin’ at sea
And her sails are filled
She’s gonna make it
And he never will

And you know it’s not like she’s forgot about him
She’s just dealing with the pain
And the fact that she’s survived so well without him
You know it’s driving him insane

And the crazy thing about it
Is she’d take him back
But the fool in him that walked out
Is the fool that just won’t ask

She’s gonna make it
And he never will
He’s at the foot of the mountain
And she’s over that hill
He’s sinkin’ at sea
And her sails are filled
She’s gonna make it
And he never will

Lord, she's gonna make it
And he never will


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Love the group and have always loved this song but now it is especially meaningful to me.

http://www.jango.com/music/Barenaked+Ladies?l=0

Barenaked Ladies - Call and Answer

I think its getting to the point
Where I can be myself again
I think its getting to the point
Where we have almost made amends
I think its the getting to the point
That is the hardest part.

And if you call, I will answer
And if you fall, I'll pick you up
And if you court this disaster
I'll point you home

You think I only think about you
When were both in the same room
You think I'm only here to witness
The remains of love exhumed
You think we're here to play
A game of who loves more than whom

And if you call, I will answer
And if you fall, I'll pick you up
And if you court this disaster
I'll point you home

You think its only fair to do what's
Best for you and you alone
You think its only fair to do the same
To me when you're not home
I think its time to make this something that is
More than only fair

So if you call, I will answer
And if you fall, I'll pick you up
And if you court this disaster
I'll point you home.

But I'm warning you, dont ever do
Those crazy, messed up things that you do
If you ever do
I promise you I'll be the first to crucify you
Now its time to prove that you've come back
Here to rebuild.
Rebuild
Rebuild
Rebuild



If I had $1,000,000 is still my fave. \:\)


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2 awesome kids
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.

We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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Groovy, Mark. You knew were "it" in your fine apparel, right?

And pick-up trucks... Common where I grew up and I lived on a farm so I hear ya. My H drove a Chevy Luv in high school. Okay, not a real truck, but enough of one. It had a bench seat so I could sit right by him and we fit in its bed just fine. I loved that truck.

You know, we should start another thread titled "Moments from our past that make us go 'DOH!' in a good way."

Now, back to the music.

(I love this thread.)

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I'm sure I'd heard this song before but never paid attention to the lyrics until a few days ago when I heard it driving home. All those darn questions in a BS's head.

http://www.jango.com/music/All+Saints?l=0

All Saints - Never Ever

A few questions that I need to know
how you could ever hurt me so
I need to know what I've done wrong
and how long it's been going on
Was it that I never paid enough attention?
Or did I not give enough affection?
Not only will your answers keep me sane
but I'll know never to make the same mistake again
You can tell me to my face or even on the phone
You can write it in a letter, either way, I have to know
Did I never treat you right?
Did I always start the fight?
Either way, I'm going out of my mind
all the answers to my questions
I have to find

My head's spinning
Boy, I'm in a daze
I feel isolated
Don't wanna communicate

I'll take a shower, I will scour
I will rub
To find peace of mind
The happy mind I once owned, yeah

Vexing vocabulary runs right through me
The alphabet runs right from A to Z
Conversations, hesitations in my mind
You got my conscience asking questions that I can't find

I'm not crazy
I'm sure I ain't done nothing wrong, no
I'm just waiting
'Cause I heard this feeling
won't last that long

Never ever have I ever felt so low
When you gonna take me out of this black hole?
Never ever have I ever felt so sad
The way I'm feeling yeah, you got me feeling really bad

Never ever have I had to find
I've had to dig away to find my own peace of mind
I've Never ever had my conscience to fight
The way I'm feeling, yeah, I just don't feel righ

I'll keep searching
Deep within my soul
For all the answers
Don't wanna hurt no more

I need peace, got to feel at ease
Need to be.
Free from pain - going insane
My heart aches, yeah

Sometimes vocabulary runs right through my head
The alphabet runs right from A to Z
Conversations, hesitations in my mind
You got my conscience asking questions that I can't find

I'm not crazy,
I'm sure I ain't done nothing wrong
I'm just waiting
'Cause I heard this feeling won't last that long

Never ever have I ever felt so low
When ya gonna take me out of this black hole?
Never ever have I ever felt so sad
The way I'm feeling yeah, you got me feeling really bad

Never ever have I had to find
I've had to dig away to find my own peace of mind
I've Never ever had my conscience to fight
The way I'm feeling, yeah, I just don't feel right x4

You can tell me to my face,
You can tell me on the phone,
Uh, You can write it in a letter, babe
'Cause I really need to know

You can tell me to my face
You can tell me on the phone
Uh, You can write it in a letter, bab
'Cause I really need to know

You can write it in a letter, babe
You can write it in a letter, babe

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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.

We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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As long as we’re reminiscing, here’s one from the boys from’Bama:

Jukebox In My Mind

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Artist: Alabama
Song: Jukebox In My Mind

In the corner of my mind stands a jukebox
It's playin' all my favorite mem-o-ries
One by one, they take me back
To the days when you were mine
And I can't stop this jukebox in my mind.

I don't need no quarters, don't need any dime
You filled it up forever
When you said good-bye
Heaven knows I love old melodies
They were meant to ease the pain
But the kind that's playin' on my mind
Are drivin' me insane.

In the corner of my mind stands a jukebox
It's playin' all my favorite mem-o-ries
One by one, they take me back
To the days when you were mine
And I can't stop this jukebox in my mind.

Song by song, those melodies
Were meant to ease the pain
But the kind that's playin' on my mind
Are drivin' me insane;

In the corner of my mind stands a jukebox
It's playin' all my favorite mem-o-ries
One by one, they take me back
To the days when you were mine
And I can't stop this jukebox in my mind.


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You knew were "it" in your fine apparel, right?


I was GROOVY...

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The bass player/lead vocalist/song writer for this band had the same rolls in a band I ran sound for in the mid 70s. Though this clip is fairly old (April 1994) the guy can still sing...

From King's-X:

I Pretend

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You took away from me
I tried to get it back
And if you lie to me
I keep it to myself
A trick or treat but then
That don't make it right
I can't remember when
I could say goodnite
Then something comes into my head
And then a change
I work it out somehow
I guess I've got my ways
But then I wonder how did I get it wrong
It doesn't matter now


I pretend.
I pretend.
Yeah, Yeah, Yeah


I take the longest walks
They always do me good
I just indulge myself
In sorrow singing blues
But then I have to laugh
Cause it's an outlet too
And if I add it all
It still just wouldn't do
I've come to realize
There's nothing I can lose
So I control myself
Nothing else to do
I'll just remember when
It comes around again
I'd rather be alone
I won't get hurt again


I pretend
I pretend
Yeah, Yeah, Yeah




Then something comes
Into my head and then a change
I work it out somehow
I guess I've got my ways
I take the longest walks
It always does me good
I just control myself


I pretend
I pretend
Yeah, Yeah, Yeah

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And another one from Doug and King's-X...

From the 1989 album Gretchen Goes To Nebraska:

I'll Never Be The Same

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She stands in the waiting
She looks down to speak
Your eyes speak invitation
To follow with the beat

Chorus:
She said
Oh no I'll never be the same
You struck my heart like lightning
I'll never be the same

I've come to know the color
Of indecisiveness
Tell me what I'm feeling
In seven words or less

Chorus:
She said
Oh no, I'll never be the same
You struck my heart like lightning
I'll never be the same



The way looks awful lonely
So long or maybe less
The time has passed so slowly
There's pressure on my chest
Your eyes speak invitation
To follow with the beat
So tell me what I'm feeling
In seven words so speak

(repeat chorus 2x)

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THE TAKER

I’m not your average woman living an average life,
I saw what I wanted so I took a slice.
I’m not looking for approval for where I’ve been,
Your approval isn’t needed to absolve my sins.

Some call it love and some call it lust,
I call it pleasure when you call it rust.
If you think you can make a difference in me,
You better think twice, open your eyes and see.

Yeah, I’m a Taker,
I take what I want because it feels so good.
Yeah, you’re a Giver,
You give it to me like you know you should.

I take my men poor, ignorant and young,
I take my men dark, mysterious and hung.
We talk about things far from my life at home,
I help them with their rent and then they "F" my bones.

Then I bid them goodbye and I send them off packing,
with my Taker in control and my lust not lacking.
I’ve got to get home and put dinner on the table,
I’ve got to show my husband that we are stable.

So let me Take,
My needs are many.
And you can give,
Every last penny.

So if you’re lookin’ to lay a little guilt on me,
Don’t be barking up this withered old tree.
I’ve traveled way past your moral lesson,
You must not have noticed with who your mess’n.

And at the end of my life with my children all grown,
Far past my guilt and the love I’ve thrown
Most think that these many years I was giving,
None know the truth of this lie I’ve been living.

I don’t care, because I’m a Taker,
I take his love without remorse.
Because he don’t care, he’s a Giver,
He never knew who I really was of course.

Take a look at me I’m a Taker,
Living my life in an empty hole.
All these years he’s been a Giver,
May God have mercy on my soul.

May God have mercy on my soul………


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Out on the tar plains

the glides are moving

all looking for

a new place to hide

You sit beside me

so newly charming

sweating dewdrops glisten

freshing your side



And the sun drips down

bedding heavy behind

the front of your dress

all shadowy lined

and the droning engine

throbs in time

with your beating heart



Way down the lane away

living for another day

the aphids swarm up

in the drifting haze

swim seagull in the sky

towards some hollow

western isle

my envied lady

holds you fast

in her gaze



And the sun drips down

bedding heavy behind

the front of your dress

all shadowy lined

and the droning engine

throbs in time

with your beating heart



Sing Blue Silver



And watching lovers part

I feel you smiling

what glass splinters

lie so deep in your mind

to tear out from your eyes

with a word to stiffen

brooding lies

and I'll only watch

you leave me

further behind



And the sun drips down

bedding heavy behind

the front of your dress

all shadowy lined

and the droning engine

throbs in time

with your beating heart



Sing Blue Silver

Sing, Sing Blue Silver


I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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Up for a slow but groovy beat? (Close your eyes and sway…)

"Drift Away" (AKA "Give Me The Beat Boys") by The Doobie Brothers

Day after day, I'm more confused
Yet I look for the light through the pourin' rain
You know that's a game that I hate to loose
And I'm feelin' the strain
Ain't it a shame

Oh, give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock n roll
And drift away
Oh, give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock n roll
And drift away

Beginnin' to think that I'm wastin' time
I don't understand the things I do
The world outside looks so unkind
Now I'm countin' on you
To carry me through

Oh, give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock n roll
And drift away
Yea, give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock n roll
And drift away

And when my mind is free
You know a melody can move me
And when I'm feelin' blue
The guitar's comin' through
To soothe me

Thanks for the joy that you've given me
I want you to know I believe in your song
And rhythm and rhyme and harmony
You help me along
Makin' me strong

Oh, give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock n roll
And drift away
Give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock n roll
And drift away

Oh-ho, ah-no
Give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock n roll
And drift away

Hey, hey, hey, yeah
Give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock n roll
And drift away

Na, Na, now won't ya
Won't ya take me
Oh-ha, take me

(Lyrics as posted on http://www.stlyrics.com)

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Fantastic song!


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My current favorite:

This time, I wonder what it feels like
To find the one in this life, the one we all dream of
But dreams just aren't enough
So I'll be waiting for the real thing, I'll know it by the feeling
The moment when we're meeting, will play out like a scene
Straight off the silver screen
So I'll be holding my breath, right up 'til the end
Until that moment when, I find the one that I'll spend forever with

Cause nobody wants to be the last one there
Cause everyone wants to feel like someone cares
Someone to love with my life in their hands
There's gotta be somebody for me like that
Cause nobody wants to go it on their own
And everyone wants to know they're not alone
There's somebody else that feels the same somewhere
There's gotta be somebody for me out there

Tonight, out on the street, out in the moonlight
And dammit this feels too right, it's just like déja vu
Me standing here with you
So I'll be holding my breath, could this be the end?
Is it that moment when, I find the one that I'll spend forever with

Cause nobody wants to be the last one there
Cause everyone wants to feel like someone cares
Someone to love with my life in their hands
There's gotta be somebody for me like that
Cause nobody wants to go it on their own
And everyone wants to know they're not alone
There's somebody else that feels the same somewhere
There's gotta be somebody for me out there

You can't give up, (when you're looking for) a diamond in the rough (cause you never know)
When it shows up, (make sure you're holding on)
Cause it could be the one, the one you're waiting on
Cause nobody wants to be the last one there
And everyone wants to feel like someone cares
Someone to love with my life in their hands
There's gotta be somebody for me, oh

Nobody wants to go it on their own
And everyone wants to know they're not alone
There's somebody else that feels the same somewhere
There's gotta be somebody for me out there
Nobody wants to be the last one there
Cause everyone wants to feel like someone cares
There's somebody else that feels the same somewhere
There's gotta be somebody for me out there

Gotta Be Somebody by Nickelback.

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Title of song? By whom? Do you have a link to hear it?

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My all-time favorite song by my all-time favorite group. Doesn’t matter what’s going on in my life, it's always appropriate.

(Next time I’ll post my other favorite of theirs, “Barracuda,” just to mix it up here a bit.)

"Love Alive" by Heart, album Little Queen (1977)

The Sky was dark this morning
When I raised my head
I stood at the window -
Darkness was my bane

Suddenly a sunbeam arc
Thrilled me to my weary heart
It was the prettiest thing I'd ever seen

I knew I had to keep my Love
Keep my Love alive
Keep my Love - Keep my Love live

Baby I want you to roll me
Hold me in your love
No more habits, promises and jive
Ever since I was a baby girl
Wanted one thing most in this world
It was to Keep My Love -
Keep My Love alive

I want to keep my Love -
Keep my Love alive
Keep my Love - keep my love alive

You're up there under the spotlight
Your silver trophy shines
With all you got, my lord!
You must get high
You need a whole lot more than money
You need more than to survive
You gotta to keep your Love
Keep your Love alive


(Lyrics as found on http://www.sing365.com)

(I dare you to tell me that the middle instrumental/"ahhhh" part of the song didn't lift your spirits. I dare you...)

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I love "Keep My Love Alive", but my favorite part of the song has nothing to do with the lyrics - I love the guitar solo in the middle of the song. I could listen to that all day. (Well, not ALL day...)


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 Originally Posted By: Mark1952
And another one from Doug and King's-X...

From the 1989 album Gretchen Goes To Nebraska:


That is a great album!


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