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Stupid things H do on VD #2213422 02/14/09 09:35 AM
Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 365 G Ggirl615 Member
Ggirl615 Member G Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 365	Has your significant other done something stupid today? I planned a nice evening tonight with my xWH. This morning we're in bed. My H's best friend is in bed with us (the dog). I tell him it's Valentine's Day and I want to cuddle with you but can't with the dog here. We kick the dog off and start cuddling. I'm thinking about tonight and getting excited. He asks me if I have something special for him tonight and I seductively say "yes". He then proceeds to talk about a exercise machine he saw and how important it is to keep the heart healhty. What a dumb thing to do at what is supposed to be a romantic intimate moment. Needless to say - water was dumped on the fire. After I cooled off I told him he totallly turned my mood off. It's probably going to take him all day to get me back where I was this morning. GG me - 47 H - 46 DS 16 - DD 13 H EA August 2007 "Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were." Cherie Carter

Re: Stupid things H do on VD Ggirl615 #2213453 02/14/09 10:41 AM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	So, you go cold on your H when he has the nerve to tell you what he's been thinking about because it's not what you want him to be thinking about? I think you owe H an apology. LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Stupid things H do on VD Pepperband #2213487 02/14/09 11:25 AM
Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 2,037 P Pariah Member
Pariah Member P Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 2,037	My ex-wife was the same way. She always found a way to blame me for her inadequacies. Guess what, your husband was giving you a message, he either thinks a woman who takes care of herself is attractive or you gotta lose some weight. Only you know the answer to that. I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.

Re: Stupid things H do on VD Pepperband #2213490 02/14/09 11:29 AM
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Ggirl615 Member G Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 365	Pepper, Okay. If your cuddling your wife and she starts talking about her period how would you feel? I don't feel like I went cold on him - he went cold on me. Give me credit - I told him how I felt about what he said. I'm not mad at him or plan on holding out. I'm not that kind of woman. I know he'll make it up to me later. I posted to see if any other SO did or said someting stupid today. I thought it would be fun. GG me - 47 H - 46 DS 16 - DD 13 H EA August 2007 "Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were." Cherie Carter

Re: Stupid things H do on VD Ggirl615 #2213497 02/14/09 11:31 AM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Originally Posted by Ggirl615 Pepper, Okay. If your cuddling your wife and she starts talking about her period how would you feel? I don't feel like I went cold on him - he went cold on me. Give me credit - I told him how I felt about what he said. I'm not mad at him or plan on holding out. I'm not that kind of woman. I know he'll make it up to me later. I posted to see if any other SO did or said someting stupid today. I thought it would be fun. GG I'm a woman. LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Stupid things H do on VD Pepperband #2213498 02/14/09 11:32 AM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: Stupid things H do on VD Ggirl615 #2213501 02/14/09 11:37 AM
Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,316 Michigan M MrsWondering Member
MrsWondering Member M Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,316 Michigan	How about taking an interest in what your husband was saying and then parlaying that into a little something extra... Ex: "That sounds like a really nice machine...Do you want me to go with you today to take a look at it? Working out together would be HOT! Mmmmmm, I can think of one way to get your heart pumping without a machine right now though..." See? You both WIN in the above scenario! Mrs. W FWW ~ 47 ~ Me FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering DD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered

Re: Stupid things H do on VD MrsWondering #2213526 02/14/09 12:10 PM
Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,931 V Vittoria Member
Vittoria Member V Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,931	Originally Posted by MrsWondering How about taking an interest in what your husband was saying and then parlaying that into a little something extra... Ex: "That sounds like a really nice machine...Do you want me to go with you today to take a look at it? Working out together would be HOT! Mmmmmm, I can think of one way to get your heart pumping without a machine right now though..." Brilliant turn around. GG, sometimes guys just aren't on the same page as us and the book literally has to be' knocked up side their head.' And sometimes we aren't on theirs. M'd 22 years BW-me D-Day 08/08 LTA

Re: Stupid things H do on VD Vittoria #2213530 02/14/09 12:26 PM
Joined: Oct 2004 Posts: 4,383 A aussieswife Member
aussieswife Member A Joined: Oct 2004 Posts: 4,383	We were in bed late in the morning cause I spat up again and got up & brushed and went back to bed to cuddle my man. No stinky breath when you do that. We don' do Val's Day ..... really never have..... I love teasing him about it though and we think its funny to watch people go nuts over stuff. But this morning I said 'Honey.... you know its a special day today don't you?" Ya know the soft husky sexy voice thing. A light came into his eyes - big beautiful deep deep blue eyes - you could drown in them. He sits up and I'm thinking 'Oh my what have I started" .. and he reaches over me .. grabs the TV remote clicks on the tv and asks " well where's the cricket then?????" yeah .. that's my man of course it was all probably for the better as I spat up again a bit latter. Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.

Re: Stupid things H do on VD aussieswife #2213550 02/14/09 12:51 PM
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Ggirl615 Member G Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 365	Aussie, That's funny but just to my point of how a man can be. Thanks for the laugh. MrsWondering, Great advice - I have to think of that next time. GG me - 47 H - 46 DS 16 - DD 13 H EA August 2007 "Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were." Cherie Carter

Re: Stupid things H do on VD Ggirl615 #2213551 02/14/09 12:53 PM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Originally Posted by Ggirl615 Aussie, That's funny but just to my point of how a man can be. Thanks for the laugh. MrsWondering, Great advice - I have to think of that next time. GG You touch his nose when his mind wanders, and you say: "Hold that thought, I'm picturing you nekked." LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

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