Here is my original post:
Should I jump ship now? A few days after this post, the BF invited me out to lunch. I agreed, but instead, we ended up just talking over at his place. He was so sorry, didn't understand why he freaked out over meeting the kids and decided that yes, he wanted to take things to the next level and introduce the kids. So we did, I met his, he met mine, I even met his parents. I really thought that we were moving forward, until it happend again. He freaked.
I invited him to go to a hocky game with my children and I. He agreed to go...The next day, Valentine's Day, I had my boys with me, and I invited him to come over and watch movies with us. He said he didn't want to...I could feel that there was something wrong, so I showed up at his apartment. I was hoping to try and talk to him, and get him to talk to me, but all he said was that he was again, having second thoughts about all of this...About the kids, and so forth, and that something in his gut is telling him that things just arent right. I said to him, "Don't you think it's a little too late for that? After all, we have already met eachother's children and I met your parents?" He just said that he didn't have any issues with that, and had no problem with it, and was happy that I did meet his family. But he doesn't understand why it was such a big deal and why he feels so uneasy about mine. He went back to the whole "signs" thing and that obviously there is a reason why he feels this way. I was so hurt, I felt like he just didn't want to have anything to do with my kids, maybe I was pushing it? Maybe he wasn't ready...but why would he introduce me to his family, kids if he didn't want me to do the same????
I decided that this really was enough. I broke things off with him shortly after this conversation, FOR GOOD. I told him to never contact me again...I did however call him one time to tell him I was sorry, as well as text him to tell him I feel bad about the no contact, but he agreed that it was for the best. We both need a clean break from one another and need to stay away, no more Yo-Yo....
In the past week, I was really feeling that things between us where headed in the wrong direction...It seemed that everytime I have my kids or the kids are involved, it became in issue. It was like when he knew my kids were coming back to my for visiation, he would get moody....Hello....RED FLAG!!!!!
I am really having a hard time with this, I am angry and upset, although I know I made the right decision!!! I know, day by day....There is NO contact between him and I, he agreed to not contact me at all, and hasn't tried at all. It still hurts though, but I know it is for the very best!!!
